Quote from: good logic on September 08, 2024, 07:32:55 AMPeace centi50.
According to your understanding of the verses, what do you think Qoran is saying to you?
That is how I tackle Qoran first. Of course, you can compare with other interpretations and choose the best that agrees with your conclusion or keep it on hold.
Now, according to my understanding of Qoran on marriage, it is giving options and advising the best ways.
These are the options:
Adults who have reached maturity/age of responsibility should marry with the consent of both families and an agreement from both partners.
Or . be patient if you cannot afford to and prepare for it. Do it when ready financially and mentally/emotionally...
Qoran says to be fair and just, one partner is better. It is easier to agree/communicate/run a united family with one spouse. The more wives(or the more husbands also) the more complicated life will be
Remember marriage needs securities and rules to work. Both partners work /contribute to marriage. To be secure financially, mentally and seriously/honestly/ respectful of the agreements/rules.
Do t you think marriage will be complex and more difficult to manage if one adds more partners?
Qoran is not telling us to marry or stay celibate or marry two, three, or four wives.
Qoran is saying adults should marry ( and you can only be more/better fair /just with only one partner) and bring up your family with GOD's system/ways/straight path or follow your whims if you choose to.GOD has given us the freedom of choice and never forces anything on us.
So, what do you want to do yourself? Read the verses, analyse and compare with what others say and choose according to your conclusion brother.
Thank you.
GOD bless you.
Peace.
Salam bro,
I believe that polygamy has strict conditions that it must be for taking care of orphans. To marry the widow who has children to help.
But there is one verse I just don't know how to reconcile it with polygamy.
An-Nur 24:32
وَأَنكِحُوا۟ ٱلْأَيَٰمَىٰ مِنكُمْ وَٱلصَّٰلِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَآئِكُمْۚ إِن يَكُونُوا۟ فُقَرَآءَ يُغْنِهِمُ ٱللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِۦۗ وَٱللَّهُ وَٰسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ
And marry the unmarried among you and the righteous among your male slaves and female slaves. If they should be poor, Allāh will enrich them with His bounty, and Allāh is all-encompassing and Knowing.
I am confused by the above verse. I take that we should marry only the single.
Now, if a woman marries a married man, she is breaking this commandment as it says married the single.
Unless here the the world Ankihu means to marry off and not marry
Another verse which makes my head hurt is
Is 4:129
An-Nisa' 4:129
وَلَن تَسْتَطِيعُوٓا۟ أَن تَعْدِلُوا۟ بَيْنَ ٱلنِّسَآءِ وَلَوْ حَرَصْتُمْۖ فَلَا تَمِيلُوا۟ كُلَّ ٱلْمَيْلِ فَتَذَرُوهَا كَٱلْمُعَلَّقَةِۚ وَإِن تُصْلِحُوا۟ وَتَتَّقُوا۟ فَإِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ غَفُورًا رَّحِيمًا
And you will never be able to be equal [in feeling] between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. So do not incline completely [toward one] and leave another hanging.[1] And if you amend [your affairs] and fear Allāh - then indeed, Allāh is ever Forgiving and Merciful.
This verse is like contradicting 4:3 if I take 4:3 as a license of polygamy.
Or here Allah is referring to emotional just. As a human being, there is a tendency to love one more than the other, and it's about emotional just.
And what is mathna, thutha ruba. This can not mean one two and three. Maybe by twos by threes or two by two.
But If it means two by two three by three and four by four can it be you can have 4 wives or 6 wives or 8 wives.
Am so much confused
To tell you the truth I don't know the Quran says in regard to this topic.
Other members input will be appreciated also
God bless
