Good evening,
Quran permits polygamy but with sets specific conditions that must be met for it to be allowed. In Surah An-Nisa, Verse 3, the Quran explains:
<But the problem of orphans (or those left alone in the society) is not solved simply by taking care of their property – it has other implications as well. For instance, if a situation arises, out of a war or otherwise – where a large number of men die, leaving behind widows and orphans, or you have a large number of marriageable women who cannot find husbands (4/127) and they cannot marry outside your circle; so if you cannot find an equitable solution to this problem then permission is hereby given to you to relax the Law of monogamy and those amongst you who can afford it and can treat all justly can marry two or three or four women of their liking. But if you fear that you cannot do justice, then only one or the female captives who are already in your charge. This will relieve you from the burden of a large family.> Ref:
https://www.parwez.tv/Abid_Audio_Refrences/Mufhoom_1/by_G_A_parwez/s4.htm So the essence here is that you must do justice in all maters, and God knows that it is quite not possible , hence verse 4:129 explains.
<Permission to marry more than one wife was given subject to the condition that you hold the balance evenly amongst the wives (4/3). Allah knows that it will not be possible for you to hold this balance absolutely evenly, however keen you may be to do so. Justice will be secured if you do not incline towards one wife in such a way that another is left, as it were, suspended. If you observe fairness and be mindful of Allah's Laws you will secure protection and nurture from Him. >
The above verse may hint that a man must consult with his existing wife or wives and come to a friendly understanding before marrying another woman.
As for the Quranist perspective on Muhammad's marriages, Quranists reject the idea that hadiths or other sources outside of the Quran are valid sources of Islamic law and practice. Some Quranists argue that the Quran does not explicitly mention Muhammad's multiple marriages, and therefore, they believe that he did not engage in them. However, other scholars argue that the Quranic verses referring to "your wives" and "the wives of the Prophet" (Surah Al-Ahzab, Verse 28) imply that Muhammad did indeed have multiple wives. Ultimately, this is a matter of interpretation and debate among Muslims.
It's important to acknowledge that in today's fast-paced society, with the prevalence of social media and endless daily responsibilities, it can be quite challenging for a man to maintain healthy, committed relationships with multiple women in the context of marriage. As a result, some men may resort to keeping a mistress, also known as a "kept woman", as a way to satisfy their desires or escape the difficulties of their current marriage. However, it's crucial to recognize that this behavior is not in alignment with Islamic values and principles. Islam places great emphasis on the sanctity of marriage and the importance of treating all partners with justice and kindness. Instead of resorting to illicit affairs, it's crucial for individuals to work towards building healthy, fulfilling relationships based on honesty, trust, and mutual respect.
To the person who started this thread, I can understand how certain questions and statements can be interpreted in a negative light and undermine the respect and value of women. It's important to recognize and acknowledge the inherent worth and dignity of every human being, regardless of gender. Women, like men, are individuals with their own unique experiences, perspectives, and contributions to society. It's essential to treat women with respect, equality, and fairness, and to recognize their rights to self-determination and agency.
Women are the embodiment of beauty and grace, and their mere presence in the world adds richness and depth to life. Without women, the world would be dull and monotonous, lacking the warmth and liveliness that only they can bring. Therefore, women are a source of inspiration, hope, and love, and their contributions to society should be recognized and celebrated, not just being looked at from having them as wives only.
