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Sarah

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Is marrying a non Muslim man against the Qur'an
« on: January 17, 2021, 09:02:25 AM »
Peace

So what about Catholic & protestant Christians, atheists, agnostics, 'secular Christians' who may believe their faith but not practice it etc.?

In Qur'an it is mentioned a Muslim shouldn't marry a polytheist, mushrik/ aggressor as far as I know. So a person who literally bows down to idols? Or an aggressive idol worshipper?  Are atheist and agnostic people considered idol worshippers? There's a difference in worshipping wood and stone and not believing in a God or gods at all.

It makes sense that a Muslim woman shouldn't marry an aggressive idol worshipper because he would be aggressive/ controlling towards her and likely want to control her faith and lifestyle too. But what about a peaceful, respectful agnostic? Is a Muslim woman just supposed to be single forever if she can't find a Muslim husband who she actually likes on every level overall? Whether we like to admit it or not, both emotional and physical attraction is important for a happy marriage. Falling in love is important. If you marry someone who is the same faith as you but you're not in love or even attracted to them, you would be more tempted to be with a man you're actually attracted to/ possibly in love with who isn't your husband. It would also more likely lead to divorce or a miserable unhappy marriage. It's sad if a woman has to be with someone who she is not attracted to or in love with just because he may share the same faith as her. Since Qur'an alone Muslims are extremely few and scattered over the world, it's unlikely that a Quran alone woman or man will find a another Quran alone believer to fall in love with. Not saying it's impossible but it's not likely.

'These are the verses of Allah which We recite to you in truth. Then in what statement (hadith) after Allah and His verses will they believe? (45:6)'

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Re: Is marrying a non Muslim man against the Qur'an
« Reply #1 on: January 17, 2021, 10:00:40 AM »
Since Qur'an alone Muslims are extremely few and scattered over the world, it's unlikely that a Quran alone woman or man will find a another Quran alone believer to fall in love with. Not saying it's impossible but it's not likely.

Salaam Sarah,
Yes, I agree this is not easy. But my suggestion is don't limit yourself with "Quran alone muslims". I believe the word muslim is not necessary Quran alone  only.

22:78   And strive for God a genuine striving. He is the One who has chosen you, and He has made no hardship for you in the system- the creed of your father Abraham. He is the One who named you 'those who have submitted' <muslim> from before and in this; so let the messenger be witness over you and you be witness over the people. So uphold salat and contribute towards purification and hold tight to God, He is your patron. What an excellent Patron, and what an excellent Supporter.


3:113   They are not all the same, from the people of the Book are a ummat that is upright; they recite the revelations of God during the night hours and they prostrate.
3:114   They believe in God and the Last Day, and they advocate for good and prohibit vice, and they hasten in goodness; these are of the good doers.


The things that mentioned in 3:113, also mentioned in 2:62,

2:62   Surely those who believe; and those who are Jewish, and the Nazarenes, and the Sabians, whoever of them believes in God and the Last Day and does good works; they will have their recompense with their Lord, and there is no fear upon them, nor will they grieve.

So you can try to find the man who match these criteria,

- Believes in God (One God)
- Believes in Last day
- Do good works

regardless of their religion label, because they may also be Muslims, without them knowing it.

And lastly,

2:45   And seek help through patience and through salat. It is a difficult thing, but not so for the humble.

Salat : <commitment> Do what you have to do according to Quran, including to find the man that match those criteria no matter how hard it is, and then be patience. Put all thoughts about unhappy marriage/divorce aside, it hasn't happened yet, and it doesn't necessarily happen.

May God will help you.

Peace

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Re: Is marrying a non Muslim man against the Qur'an
« Reply #2 on: January 17, 2021, 10:21:47 AM »
60:10
O you who have believed, when the believing women come to you as emigrants, examine them. God is most knowing as to their faith. And if you know them to be believers, then do not return them to the disbelievers; they are not lawful [wives] for them, nor are they lawful [husbands] for them. But give them what they have spent. And there is no blame upon you if you marry them when you have given them their due compensation.  And do not hold to marriage bonds with disbelieving women, but ask for what you have spent and let them ask for what they have spent. That is the judgement of God; He judges between you. And God is Knowing and Wise.


It may be more difficult to meet someone with similar beliefs and mutual attraction but I dont think that's a good reason to marry a disbeliever. I would say be patient and continue praying. I ended up meeting my husband on muslima at the right time in my life.

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Re: Is marrying a non Muslim man against the Qur'an
« Reply #3 on: January 17, 2021, 11:06:01 AM »
But what about a peaceful, respectful agnostic?

Peace, careful not to associate with the later...

2:0 بسم in name الله the god الرحمن the almighty الرحىم the merciful
2:1 الم alif lam meem 2:2 ذلك such الكتب the book لا not رىب doubt فىه in it هدى guidance للمتقىن for the righteous 2:3 الذىن the ones ىومنون believing بالغىب in the unseen وىقىمون and upholding الصلوه the connection/prayer ومما and from what رزقنهم provision we them ىنفقون spending 2:4 والذىن and the ones ىومنون believing بما in what انزل descends الىك to you وما and what انزل descends من from قبلك before you وبالاخره and in the last/afterlife its هم themselves ىوقنون assured being 2:5 اولىك those على on هدى guidance من from ربهم lord theirs واولىك and those هم themselves المفلحون the succeeding

2:6 ان indeed الذىن the ones كفروا reject they of ...  2:18 صم deaf بكم dumb عمى blind فهم so they لا not ىرجعون returning

2:221 ولا and not تنكحوا tankihu/thou inter-marry ye of المشركت those who associate/idolatresses (f/p) حتى until ىومن believed (f/p) ولامه and surely devotee مومنه believer (f) خىر best/better من from مشركه who associate/idolatress (f) ولو and in case اعجبتكم pleases she you (pl.) ولا and not تنكحوا tunkihu/thou inter-marry ye of المشركىن those who associate/idolaters (m/p) حتى until ىومنوا believed they of ولعبد and surely devotee مومن believer (m) خىر best/better من from مشرك who associate/idolater (m) ولو and in case اعجبكم pleases you (pl.) اولىك those ىدعون calling الى to النار the fire والله and the god ىدعوا invoked he of الى to الجنه the garden/paradise والمغفره and the forgiveness باذنه by permission his وىبىن and makes clear اىته signs his للناس to the people لعلهم perhaps they ىتذكرون remembering/heeding


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Re: Is marrying a non Muslim man against the Qur'an
« Reply #4 on: January 17, 2021, 08:24:12 PM »
First decide who is a muslim and who is not, not all who comes into a religion/cult cannot automatically become a muslim.
As a muslim, who will be at peace with his partner,caring,  accept their partner' strengths, weaknesses and leave a lot to God ordained, they have faith in God try to solve things in a peaceful way, giving things its own time.