@Jafar
We are taught judging others is wrong because we sometimes misjudge people. But I disagree to a certain extent. If a person is wise enough to know that you shouldn't be friends with just anybody for example, then you know that you have to judge them on their character and how they interact. You can't just be friends with everybody since some people will be unkind, users, abusive, even murderers etc.
Where did I say that judging is wrong??
What I said was move BEYOND judging to understanding.
When you met a growling lion you first need to judge / identify the situation.
Based on the situation you take appropriate action, fight / destabilize the lion so it is no longer a threat to you or flee / run for safety or cry for help or stand still? or climb a tree?
Next try to UNDERSTAND WHY the lion is acting as such, maybe he's hungry? he feel threatened by your presence? or other reason?
Put your mind into the lion's point of view and try to understand him.
And of course it's better if you've been feeling the same emotion as felt by the lion, you will have all the required information / data to understand the lion's behavior within yourself.
Afterwards do you then still think the lion is bad / evil?
I do believe we misjudge people though sometimes. i.e. we jump to conclusions on why person x did something. It is good to try and see it from their perspective. Sometimes we may mistake someone for being a bad person when they're not. We have to be better judges to avoid this as much as possible. However narcissists tend to become narcissists because of their childhood but this is no excuse to mistreat others because even though their childhood shaped their personalities, they KNOW and have a CHOICE in what they're doing when they're mistreating people.
Correct about the why aspect of narcissist... (or other form of supremacist for that matter)
or should I say 'past experiences' have shaped their personalities to become as such.
Additional questions to ponder:
1. Have you had similar experience as experienced by them during your childhood?
2, When you have, have you made the better choice than them? and not the choice that they choose?
3. Perhaps you did choose the same choice as them and then change that option to a 'better' choice. How did you do that? What makes you change the action?
4. Share that to others...
Even thinking along those questions have made you understand better... and less judgemental...
I highly disagree with 'since you understand you will be understood'.
It's the law of reciprocity, what goes around comes around which gives birth to recommendation of treat others as you would like to be treated. My recommendation mentioned above shall make you put your mind and perspective into their shoes and can decide better on the proper treatment as you would like to be treated, because you have shift your perspective to 'them'.
Which one that you prefer others to do to you? Judging you? or understand you?
No right or wrong.. it's your own choice....
Also, I do not think that sincere Qur'an alone believers, Christians, Jews, Non-believers are playing a game of supremacy if they're in the faith because they believe it's the truth from God instead of because of a need to be right and feed their ego. There is a difference between these two reasons for being a part of a faith.
You're right about mentioning the 'ego', because that's where it came from.
The difference is merely on the 'scale'... the context is the same.
The feeling of 'above others' is the food that the ego need and she never feel satisfied always hungry for more.
And also the consequences of putting something on the pedestal, as highlighted by Hans Wilhelm on the video that I've shared to you earlier.
My recommended action on series of questioning above, shall temporarily shift 'you' from your own ego and try to understand the 'other's ego.
Next of course is try to meet your own ego and try to disassociate / dis-identify yourself from her.
But it's more difficult than trying to understand other ego's perspective... thus first thing first.. the above set of questioning is easier but a good exercise before meeting your own ego which means: facing your own fear, facing your own hatred, facing your own sadness..
