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Re: 'Muslim Women Can Marry Peaceful Non-Muslim Men'
« Reply #10 on: January 04, 2023, 05:52:34 PM »
Despite all these conditions, still believer couple do get lot of divorces as well which has nothing to do with both of them having same beliefs.
Marriage is a very complicated system. it can be simple only if you want to make it else let alone it will have its issues over the years.

Most of the folks in practise look for other attributes like wealth, fame, social status, beauty, religious beliefs are not any more relevant.

We can talk about all day but at the end the most important aspect for couple to marry is Love which can not be defined by any statement. It just comes out of no where and consume the lovers.

Yes.. Fusion
That's world life...
Successful marriage life and those who allowed or recommended to marry are two matters...
Even serious believer as end up in bad marriage life evwn with a good believer..
For example.. nonbiologoalson of Mohamed ie  Zaid.. He divorced his wife.. He was a good person a believer.. And definitely his wife would have been a believer otherwise they won't marry as per conditions.. On top of that prophet won't marry Zaid's ex-wife unless she was a believer.. Believer to believer doesn't mean marriage life would last.. Even Allah warned all wives of Mohamed that He would replace them all with life and love is different to believing person... God's preference is believer to believer... Love can even happen with non believer ..even may fall in love with even while one have a legal wife with another woman.. Love is not marriage..
Marriage is unique and it gives right to a person over each other.. Why Allah allowed divorce foe believers... It is not easy a successful life together.. A believing couple may fail in marriage life while a mushfiq couple may succeed beyond expectations in marriage life.. So life is different matter to what God's law... 
God never said marry a mushrik if she is good and if you fall in love.. God clearly stated marrybthose who believe... That's worthy following.. Even to parents of those who expect marry God says don't give your children to.... So...  If life is so important than God's  law it is absolutely fine to take it.. We never know what God's judgment for disobeying his instructions... Anyway everyone get their partner somehow... And if they not intended to violate God's law while marry and if they remain believers in life time.. God is the forgiver who deserves..

2:221 And do not marry polytheistic women until they believe. And a believing slave woman is better than a polytheist, even though she might please you. And do not marry polytheistic men [to your women] until they believe. And a believing slave is better than a polytheist, even though he might please you. Those invite [you] to the Fire, but Allah invites to Paradise and to forgiveness, by His permission. And He makes clear His verses to the people that perhaps they may remember.
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Re: 'Muslim Women Can Marry Peaceful Non-Muslim Men'
« Reply #11 on: January 05, 2023, 05:57:34 AM »
islam is an attitude and those who possess such attitude within his/her character are called muslims.
Thus it's not a member or non member of the religion named Islam.

I would recommend on not to marry person with narcissistic, ego-centricity, self-centered, prideful personality.
And that includes person who think that their religion (or other form of identities such as ethnicity, race, tribe, nationality, organization, gender etc..) is superior compared to others.

Having said that, I've observed a pattern where empath (those with opposite trait as narcissist) tends to gravitate and sympathize towards narcissist. And vice-versa. I guess it's true what they say that "opposite attract each others".


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Re: 'Muslim Women Can Marry Peaceful Non-Muslim Men'
« Reply #12 on: January 06, 2023, 02:55:50 AM »
It is strictly forbidden/haraam to be married with someone who is in shirk.

For example, it is also forbidden to marry a Sufi who worships the universe and nature.


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Re: 'Muslim Women Can Marry Peaceful Non-Muslim Men'
« Reply #13 on: January 07, 2023, 09:40:07 AM »
I agree with you that it is difficult to find believers until you have interacted and/or lived with them. However, it would be easier to spot the disbelievers and the hypocrites because they outwardly manifest what The God prohibits like eating pork, showing the chest and making evident the private parts, believing in more than one god, and believing in hadiths, among others. So if we can avoid the disbelievers and the hypocrites, 50% of the efforts in finding a believing spouse is done. I will leave the other 50% to The God through patience and as-salah.

A hard question for us to identify:
What is a believer?
1-Someone who says "I am a believer"?
2- Someone who   belongs to a certain religion/sect?
3- Someone who believes GOD exist?
4-...believes what?...
Even when we live with someone 24 hours a day, we cannot know for sure. We can only know to a certain degree according to our knowledge of the person.
It is impossible to know the true conviction and innermost thoughts/intentions of even close friends and family.

I honestly cannot say about myself  that I am a true believer. Yes  good logic , even though knows himself better than any other human, cannot say that he is 100% believer. i.e Believes in GOD, follows GOD s laws/instructions 100%,has the best behaviour/works,...etc. One can only try! Yes one may end up exactly the opposite, this is something to always be wary of., like one can become a better believer from  an opposite side.

GOD addresses many different believers in Qoran. Those that believe but commit idol worship, those that do not believe in GOD and His message with total conviction, those who believe in the messenger and undermine GOD, those who make others feel secure- has nothing to do with GOD-,those...etc like for example:

"Oh you who believe, believe in GOD and His messenger..."  Or:
Those who believe, the Jews, the Christians, ... If they believe in GOD ,  accountability and do good they have ..."

Not so easy to find a believer . Like brother hawk says, try to find a kind person that cares for you and you care for them first. Then trust in GOD to guide you both. if you believe.
GOD bless you all.