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Re: ...But I want to wear hijab anyways?
« Reply #10 on: June 29, 2018, 10:49:14 PM »
Why would you wear hijab in front of your family?
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Re: ...But I want to wear hijab anyways?
« Reply #11 on: June 30, 2018, 02:02:02 AM »
Salam everyone .
 I converted to Islam 2 years ago, followed the Sunni ways, and started to wear the headscarf I then took it off after 4 months of wearing when I stumbled upon Quran-alone websites and realized I did not find it to be prescribed in the Quran. At this point, I did not have any problems with wearing the hijab, but after some conversing with my husband, I became convinced that by continuing to wear it, I was showing a false image of Islam.

At this point, I can see both sides -- I find myself convinced by both the evidences that it is and is not required, although I tend to find the evidences that it is not required

Also I struggle with the fear that if I wear it, I'm adding a restriction where Allah did not put one - but this situation seems much like the fact that I try to maintain a vegetarian/vegan diet, in which I restrict myself of meats that Allah did not restrict us from because I believe it might be better health-wise for me, even though I acknowledge that these meats are still lawful.

Peace bls381, You pretty much answered your own question:

1.   I stumbled upon Quran-alone websites and realized I did not find it to be prescribed in the Quran.

2.   I became convinced that by continuing to wear it, I was showing a false image of Islam.

I understand that you want to belong to the community at large and wearing
the hijab helps you to fit in, so maybe you can find a compromise between the two.



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Re: ...But I want to wear hijab anyways?
« Reply #12 on: June 30, 2018, 02:25:16 AM »
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Re: ...But I want to wear hijab anyways?
« Reply #13 on: June 30, 2018, 04:05:05 PM »
Thank you all for your responses, I appreciate them. I've been praying about it for several months now, asking God to increase my desire to wear a scarf if it is good for me, or decrease my desire if it is best not to cover, and my desire has only gotten stronger. But how is one to determine whether a feeling is from oneself or from Allah? It's something I've been struggling with how to determine..


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Re: ...But I want to wear hijab anyways?
« Reply #14 on: July 01, 2018, 03:46:14 AM »
We don't determine right from wrong through feelings. Allah represents righteousness and to know and understand that one must use their mind. That's how we differ from animals.

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Re: ...But I want to wear hijab anyways?
« Reply #15 on: July 01, 2018, 10:40:46 PM »
Peace

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Rather hear this, if you asked Allah for a Sign then surely He responds to the supplication.
If you have received the Sign you prayed about, then act accordingly or if you are uncertain, then give charities, remain patient and ask for a distinct undeniable Sign. Then, when you receive it again do not entertain doubt and falter, but remain firm and glorify His Praises.
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Re: ...But I want to wear hijab anyways?
« Reply #16 on: July 02, 2018, 11:30:12 AM »
Salam Sister!

Here is what references I could share from Al-Quran. Root meanings are also given for ready reference/convenience). Hope it would be helpful for you in order to make a decision after you check and verify for yourself:

Hijab is a screen/curtain inside a woman's house (Ref: 33:53). Wives/ازواج of the Prophet (Peace be upon him) were supposed to talk to outsiders/non-family males behind such screen - exceptions for them are given in 33:55. Hijab was also practiced by Maryam مریم (mother of Isa A.S). It is not compulsory for other مومنات/believing women, however.

ح ج ب= Ha-Jiim-Ba = something which hinders/prevents/precludes/conceals/covers/protects/intervenes, hid, seclude, to veil/conceal/cover/hide a thing, intervene between two things.
hajaba vb. (1) pcple. pass. 83:15
hijab n.m. 7:46, 17:45, 19:17, 33:53, 38:32, 41:5, 42:51
Lane's Lexicon, Volume 2, page: 151, 152  ##  http://ejtaal.net/aa/#q=7jb


Mem/Women's dress/لباس should at least cover their private parts (7:26-27).
Wearing Scarf or Niqab or Burqa are additional to the women's dress. For مومنات /believing women, part of their head-cover or outer garment (extra garment in addition to the normal dress/لباس) must cover their bosoms as per 24:31. Exceptions are also mentioned in the same Ayah/آیت.

ل ب س = Lam-Ba-Siin = To wear/cover, put on a garment, be clothed in, envelop, conceal, conformed, cloak/disguise, that which is worn.
Obscure/confuse/confound, mystify, render a thing obscure and confused to another.
Employed/busied/occupied himself with/within a thing, become involved/entangled/complicated, to mix/mingle/accompany a thing.
labasa vb. (I)
perf. act. 6:9
impf. act. 2:42, 3:71, 6:65, 6:82, 6:137
labs n.vb - 50:15
labisa vb. (I) - 16:14, 18:31, 35:12, 44:53
labus n.m. - 21:80
libas n.m. - 2:187, 2:187, 7:26, 7:26, 7:27, 16:112, 22:23, 25:47, 35:33, 78:10]
LL, V7, p: 175, 176  ##  http://ejtaal.net/aa/#q=lbs

 Kha-Miim-Ra = cover/conceal/veil, becoming changed/altered from a former state/condition, mixed/mingled/incorporated/blended, intoxication/wine/grapes, make-up, any intoxicating thing that clouds/obscures the intellect, come upon secretly/unexpectedly, crowding of people, odour of perfume, women's head cover, man's turban, a covering,  something fermented/matured.
khamr n.fem. 2:219, 5:90, 5:91, 12:36, 12:41, 47:15
khumur n. masc. pl. 24:31

...and let them draw/set/cast (walyadribna) with their veils/covers (bikhumurihinna) over (AAala) their breasts/bosom (juyoobihinna)... [24:31]
Lane gives some examples: ?the dwelling was hidden by the trees?, ?he concealed his testimony?, "She (a woman) applied KhaMaRat as a linament, to beautify her complexion.".

"KhiMaR [A woman's muffler, or veil with which she covers her head and the lower part of her face, leaving exposed only the eyes and part or whole of the nose, such is the KhMR worn in the present day: a kind of veil which in Turkish is called Yashmak] a woman's head-covering."
LL, V2, p: 443, 444, 445, 446  ##  http://ejtaal.net/aa/#q=xmr

Jiim-Lam-Ba-Ba = Woman's outer wrapping garment, that which envelopes the whole body, wide garment for a woman, dominion or sovereignty or rule.

jalabib (pl. of jilbab) 33:59  ##  http://ejtaal.net/aa/#q=JLBB


For me, the dress can be fashionable according to one's society or culture. Because I think that امربالمعروف means to do things according to the known and acceptable standards of one's immediate society.
ع ر ف= Ayn-Ra-Fa = he knew it, had cognition of it, to discern, became acquainted with it, perceiving a thing by reflection and by consideration of the effect, he requited, to acknowledge a part, manager/orderer/overseer, become submissive/tractable/pleasant, the making to know, fragrant, to inform oneself, learn/discover, seek/desire knowledge, benefaction/goodness, mane (of a horse) waves (of the sea), elevated place/portion, higher/highest, first/foremost, a question or questioning respecting a subject of information in order to know it, commonly received/known, to confess/acknowledge/indicate, high mountain, Mount Arafat.
The difference between arafa & alima is that the former refers to distinct and specific knowledge, while the latter is more general. Opposite to arafa is ankara (to deny) and opposite ot alima is jahila (to be ignorant).
al araf - the elevated place, high dignity, distinguished position, place of discernment or acknowledgement, highest or most elevated faculties of discernment or ma'rifah (knowledge of right and wrong).
ma'ruf - honourable, known, recognised, good, befitting, fairness, kindness, custom of society, usage.

'arafaat (pl. of 'arafat, masculine 'araf, being a version of 'aarif, the active form of 'arafa and/or 'arfun, the informational noun of 'arafa) means 'familiarizations, approbations, recognitions.'


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