Author Topic: How do you search for marriage? It's like 99% is following false doctrines..  (Read 2361 times)

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And it's like the 1% is shattered all around the globe..

So how would you search for the correct man/woman that aren't part of a sect and actually try to follow the Words of God sent down by Him.
One God, many different Messengers, but One Message.

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Greetings and Peace, all  :group:

If there are about 7.6 billion people in the world, and 99% of them are unsuitable, that still leaves 76 million people that are suitable. Don't despair. Use the resources at your disposal, be upfront about who you are and who you are looking for, and be patient.

Personally, so long as someone is a monotheist, they would be suitable to my Deen (were I not already married). Don't worry too much about forms and rituals...

22:67 For every nation We have established rites which they are to fulfill. So do not let the matter fall into dispute. And call upon your Lord, for you are on a guidance which is straight.

If finding a suitable marriage partner is a test, then it is a blessing of sorts to be tested. Don't ask for what you think to be the best--ask for what the Almighty knows to be the best for you and to accept whatever ALLAH gives you.

3:186 We will test you in your wealth and in yourselves, and you will hear from those who have been given the Book from before you and from the polytheists much annoyance. And if you are patient and righteous, then that is from a strength of conviction.

I'd suggest using dating websites to help find people and help people find you. Be assured that there are many people currently searching for someone like yourself--you just need to make it easy to be found. If you know others that are not unfriendly, recruit them to be matchmakers--maybe they know of someone who would be a good match. There should be no urgency to marry--like a good carpenter would say, "Measure twice and cut once!"

May ALLAH see fit to Guide all seekers.

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I am still studying. So i still have some years to prepare myself.

But yeah, it's like searching for a needle in a haystack.
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But yeah, it's like searching for a needle in a haystack.

peace

look by the lens of creator how God manage to make two people meet and these two are two in billions
its all about the design of birth/death created by lord he decide the time/place/parents for every human so for this his planning is to make two ends meet and then as per God planning a couple meet and start liking eachother.

infact its not we who search but its God who make us to find a needle in haysteak lol its the responsibilty of God to bring the people who have to come in this world.

and marriage is not really easy and it seems everybody is struggling in finding their partners because its not only about faith but age,status,looks,habbits,liking,disliking etc

religion/deen is not a barrier for getting married there are even couples out of which one is athiest and one is believer , and mix and match etc like unusual marriage between a japanese and white, asian and black, black and white , sunni and shia, i know one of my frd whose wife is jew and he is hardcore sunni  :hmm

its all about a click what we say love lets see when God plan to bring your kids in this world then you ll see how things go very fast ;)
God bless you

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Are you married?
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Peace,

And it's like the 1% is shattered all around the globe..

So how would you search for the correct man/woman that aren't part of a sect and actually try to follow the Words of God sent down by Him.

You just have to keep the faith. After all, we are created in pairs.

Peace.

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Peace,

You just have to keep the faith. After all, we are created in pairs.

Peace.

peace saj,

creating everything in pairs is normality along with abnormality in fewer cases
like my 2 uncles died without marriage lol

i regret about the elder one many many years ago roughly 40 yrs one of my uncle wish to get married and his family make fun of him in the end he asked help from his mates

the friends take money from him and get him married they cook food,do rituals of marriage etc
on the wedding night he found out it was "shemale" people called these people khawajasira or khusra he run away from there and after that he never talk or ask about marriage.
he was a normal perosn not clever person ,he was simple like village people
i always feel for him.

this world is strange

and one of my cuz is getting ready for his fourth marriage coz he is multimillonaire lol

some people have everything in abundance and some just have miseries wriiten in their destiny and sad thing is this we cannot change much

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Peace,

You just have to keep the faith. After all, we are created in pairs.

Peace.

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To make things worse: Most so-called "Quran Alone Muslim" women have been brainwashed by the mainstream media, Edip Yuksel, Layth, Wakas and Free-Minds to adopt feminism as their doctrine. Thus, they are now pursuing careers and leaving marriage off until they are barely able to have children. Men are supposed to be the ones working and taking care of household finances. Those women are not doing themselves a favor by waiting till they are 30-35.
10:41 If they deny you, say: "My works are for me, and your works are for you. You are innocent of what I do, and I am innocent of what you do."

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To make things worse: Most so-called "Quran Alone Muslim" women have been brainwashed by the mainstream media, Edip Yuksel, Layth, Wakas and Free-Minds to adopt feminism as their doctrine. Thus, they are now pursuing careers and leaving marriage off until they are barely able to have children. Men are supposed to be the ones working and taking care of household finances. Those women are not doing themselves a favor by waiting till they are 30-35.
Bold: How & why did they adopt feminism?

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And it's like the 1% is shattered all around the globe..

So how would you search for the correct man/woman that aren't part of a sect and actually try to follow the Words of God sent down by Him.

You can't do much. There is a social site for Muslims devoted to Qur'an alone to meet and build offline relationship including dating for marriage(https://www.meetquranites.com/) but as you already noted, only one percent exist, scattered about the globe. The probability of meeting someone in that site is almost negligible. I am not even registered there. Even if you meet someone, what are the chances of forming a compatible pair?
That is why I cannot believe some people here downplay the significance of promoting God/Qur'an alone.
God will not change the condition of people until they change it for themselves.

Unless you are willing to marry persons who are not devoted to God alone, take marriage off the top of your priority list
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And it's like the 1% is shattered all around the globe..

So how would you search for the correct man/woman that aren't part of a sect and actually try to follow the Words of God sent down by Him.

Scattered?
PEACE

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Salam/Peace,

I agree with looking for a compatible mate, but faith is subject to change in people (that is why we are taught by the examples of the prophets that they pray to die as Submitters).

Noah and Lot's wives were polytheists/evil.

Pharaoh's wife was a believer.

We can try to screen who we will spend our lives with, but best not to over analyze.
`And when God Alone is mentioned, the hearts of those who do not believe in the Hereafter are filled with aversion; and when others are mentioned beside Him, they rejoice!` (The Quran 39:45)

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peace all,

Just read this thread. p1993 seems to imply I promote feminism. Never been accused of that before but if he meant I promote equal rights for all then that's true.

In any case, for those searching for a spouse, some advice:

1) do not expect your potential partner to agree with you on everything. As long as you are both headed in the same direction (see here) and have the same core beliefs/mindset then that's the main thing (e.g. monotheism and doing good).
2) increase the size of your network. There are a few Quran based islam forums and many facebook groups, even some matrimonial groups. Also some Traditional/mainstream Muslim matrimonial sites/apps may be ok (just state that you prefer a simple life, not religious but try to live by the principles/ethics of Quran etc, dont state you're a "Quran alone muslim" as you may get Traditionalists trying to argue with you).
3) join some local charity/volunteer groups. You will likely find some like-minded individuals there, and if not it doesn't matter because you'll be doing good which is always nice.
All information in my posts is correct to the best of my knowledge only and thus should not be taken as a fact. One should seek knowledge and verify: 17:36, 20:114, 35:28, 49:6, 58:11. My articles

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peace,

You may find these verses helpful,

"And We had laid out/detailed linguistically to the people in this Qur’an from every example, but most of the people refused except (insisting) disbelief!" [17:89]

"And We have put forth for the people in this Qur’an of every example. And if you come to them with a sign, those who rejected will say: “That truly you are except wasters/annulers!” [30:58]

Qur’anic example for marriage is in 28:22-28, where Moses meets his partner accidentally!

So leave it to GOD to meet your Ideal Companion.

Since GOD brought us into this ‘Wonderful system of Existence, Let HIM to complete it in HIS own way (the Best way).

“And seek help through patience and through the swalat. And that it truly is a great/burden except on the humble.” [2:45]
-my current understanding. Verify for yourself -17:36.
O you who believe! Enter perfectly in islam/ Surrender yourselves wholly unto God [2:208], [3:19-20,85 2:132]

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owlwithbow
How would you search for anyone.. In any other circumstance, like your culture for example? I think everyone has bias and no one is free from it. So whilst people try to follow the Words of God people will have their own spin on that.

progressive1993
What?s the feminism doctrine exactly?
What?s wrong with pursuing a career?? Not every man in this universal is trustworthy and honest and even so not everyone wants children and not all men are able to ?take care of household finance?. I don?t see how rushing to have children will do any favours. 

Layth
Nicely said, I think people over analyse things because they yearn for companionship. Finding a lifelong partner is something many people of all faiths struggle about.
We all have blind spots.
Follow your heart but take your brain with you.
ambiguity is there for a reason, why do you think?
We're all different, so how can we all be equal?

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believer(type A) and non-believer(type B)  cannot stay under one roof for long...

in simple words understanding in couples start from the nature what they adopt,

example a charitable husband and stingy wife will fight all their life, due to different nature
a trouble maker husband and peaceful wife will not get along for so long...
a illegal earner and legal earner will not have peaceful life etc dosent matter if they belong to same label what inherited from tradition/culture

sometimes we choose what not in our favor..

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Re: How do you search for marriage? It's like 99% is following false doctrines..
« Reply #18 on: September 03, 2019, 01:55:41 AM »
Salam/Peace,

I agree with looking for a compatible mate, but faith is subject to change in people (that is why we are taught by the examples of the prophets that they pray to die as Submitters).

Noah and Lot's wives were polytheists/evil.

Pharaoh's wife was a believer.


We can try to screen who we will spend our lives with, but best not to over analyze.

salaam,

I think these examples are not for new marriages, but for existing marital relationships in which couples became different in their understanding of faith after marriage. (e.g. At the time of marriage both were believers but after, one left faith / vice versa).

Qur'an always advise to marry a believer (2:221, 4:25, 24:32 etc.)
-my current understanding. Verify for yourself -17:36.
O you who believe! Enter perfectly in islam/ Surrender yourselves wholly unto God [2:208], [3:19-20,85 2:132]