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Divorcing an addicted husband
« on: June 07, 2017, 09:24:50 PM »
Hey, I am married to an alcoholic addict. I don't know what to do. He convinced me that he was a teetotaler before the marriage. But, he was lying. I cannot cope up with this behavior of his. He is also quarrelsome after using alcohol.
I am going to ask him to get addiction help from Toronto. If he is planning to continue with his behavior, then I am going to ask for a divorce. What do you guys think?

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Re: Divorcing an addicted husband
« Reply #1 on: June 07, 2017, 10:36:24 PM »
Salam,

It is impossible to give someone advice as only they know the extent of their situation.

When you say alcoholic, I assume you mean someone who drinks regularly (possibly each day) and who drinks to the point of drunkenness?
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Re: Divorcing an addicted husband
« Reply #2 on: June 07, 2017, 10:41:44 PM »
Hey, I am married to an alcoholic addict. I don't know what to do. He convinced me that he was a teetotaler before the marriage. But, he was lying. I cannot cope up with this behavior of his. He is also quarrelsome after using alcohol.
I am going to ask him to get addiction help from Toronto. If he is planning to continue with his behavior, then I am going to ask for a divorce. What do you guys think?


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Re: Divorcing an addicted husband
« Reply #3 on: June 08, 2017, 12:10:26 AM »
Either you can helpt him to fight it or you can't. If you can't, really I see myself inyour situation and I would divorce.

Give yourself may be a room for trial and if that fails, go ahead May be the fact that he looses a family may bring some sonse into his life. If not, there is ntohing you can do except get drowned with him.

Salaam and really, really, pray for you for the best. It is a very trying, hellish situation. Be good to yourself and pray for him. But do not stay in the middle or the continuous doubt.

You have all my syimpathy. Him too, but may be there is ntomuch you can do for him. So take care of yourself.

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Re: Divorcing an addicted husband
« Reply #4 on: June 08, 2017, 12:18:32 AM »
Salam,

It is impossible to give someone advice as only they know the extent of their situation.

When you say alcoholic, I assume you mean someone who drinks regularly (possibly each day) and who drinks to the point of drunkenness?

The latter one.

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Re: Divorcing an addicted husband
« Reply #5 on: June 08, 2017, 12:19:53 AM »
Thank you everyone for considering me. :)

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Re: Divorcing an addicted husband
« Reply #6 on: June 08, 2017, 03:48:44 AM »
If you have any issue in a marriage you two should invite your relatives and talk in their presence about an issue. If that helps then thank to Allah and continue your life, if not you're free to divorce. If he leaves you in bed 4 times openly while you're with him, you can divorce too and he has no permition to stop you. That's Kitab (Regulation), but we're doing many things other then Kitab.
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Re: Divorcing an addicted husband
« Reply #7 on: June 08, 2017, 03:53:58 AM »
If you have any issue in a marriage you two should invite your relatives and talk in their presence about an issue. If that helps then thank to Allah and continue your life, if not you're free to divorce. If he leaves you in bed 4 times openly while you're with him, you can divorce too and he has no permition to stop you. That's Kitab (Regulation), but we're doing many things other then Kitab.
Where is this in Quran that if a man leaves a woman in bed 4 times she should divorce???

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Re: Divorcing an addicted husband
« Reply #8 on: June 08, 2017, 04:02:44 AM »
Ayet 2:234 is about that.
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Re: Divorcing an addicted husband
« Reply #9 on: June 08, 2017, 04:11:09 AM »
Personally hate the idea of drinking and wouldn't tolerate a drunken alcoholic. You've obviously married him so he can't be all bad, something must have attracted you to him.

My advice, see if he is willing to amend his ways to being sober. Explain how the drinking makes you feel and your anger for his lying/misguiding your perception of his drinking. If he is improving and amending his ways is there any reason to divorce? if not, continue happily otherwise go with your decision.

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