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27-old male, looking for marriage with a sincere Quran follower
« on: February 08, 2014, 08:14:44 PM »
Peace be upon you,
I am a 27-year old, male, Turkish, Quran Follower, looking for a (preferably Turkish) sincere Quran follower who does not associate any other books to Quran. Since this is what I understand from the order
?And do not marry female associators (Those who associate others with Allah) until they believe?? (2/221)
I am someone who takes his religion quite very seriously and I (struggle to) put Quranic orders first in everything I do.
It would be great if I can find someone who has realized
-   How vital is to apply the orders in Quran
-   How serious the orders in the Quran are
-   How wonderful is to struggle for appreciation of Allah, even if it sometimes means loneliness, hearing bad words, staying poor etc.
-   How difficult will be to defend our behaviors that are not supported by the Message on the day of Judgment
-   How surprising the day of Judgment will be when we see the majority (maybe myself in them  :( ) who are misguided.

Those are the feelings that I would love to share with my wife in the future. To sum up, I pray to find a wife like in verse 39/9.

If you have any questions regarding me and my criteria, please feel free to contact me.

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Re: 27-old male, looking for marriage with a sincere Quran follower
« Reply #1 on: February 08, 2014, 10:18:50 PM »
Shirk means have partners.
Thus, mushrik means someone who have or assign partners. It does not always mean a person who has partners with God.
This profile is dead. It was assasinated by its owner :D

I am no longer of an adherent or believer of any religion. So some of my views that have been expressed here may no longer represent or reflect my current views.

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Re: 27-old male, looking for marriage with a sincere Quran follower
« Reply #2 on: February 15, 2014, 04:05:16 PM »
Hi again, peace be upon you, I would like to update my post:

The nationality(Turkish or not) is no more my priority.
I realized that my priorities should exactly match to Quran.
So, my priorities are just as mentioned in 2/221 when read in parallel with the whole Message.

Some of you might believe fearing Allah too much is not good or suggested. Although I respect such a view, I don't agree and I am looking for a wife who fears Allah (in the way Quran mentions) very much.


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Re: 27-old male, looking for marriage with a sincere Quran follower
« Reply #3 on: February 17, 2014, 09:32:18 AM »
Salaam Brother,

Do you live in Turkey? and What languages do you speak cos you need to be able to communicate with your future wife.
Also would you marry someone from another country and would she have to relocate?

BTW I love Turkey and am wanting to move to there from UK.
Whereabouts are you in Turkey cos I am planning on moving to Bursa

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Re: 27-old male, looking for marriage with a sincere Quran follower
« Reply #4 on: February 18, 2014, 09:30:09 PM »
Salaam,

Currently I'm not in Turkey. I'm in United States of America as a PhD student.

I am open to discuss "where to live after marriage" and all other issues about marriage. Since I have found the true guidance, I don't (or try not to) worry much about these issues. To illustrate, assume that I married with someone like suggested in the verse 2/221 and assume that we started to live in place A. One day, my wife can come and show me the verse 4/97 or 16/41, and we can analyze the verse and discuss whether the verse applies to our case... and then if we believe the verse applies to our case (considering the definitions and indicators in Quran), we can easily start getting prepared for moving to another place called place B. Then maybe to place C, then to Place D... Earth is wide as the verse 29/56 puts it.

Because when Allah says it, He means it!
Let me humbly confess that I am using (or trying to use) this technique for a while, and everything works great. Of course there are some problems in my life (ex. I feel alone sometimes) but this is not a violation of what I say, instead I read them in parallel to the verse 4/79.

Just follow the guidance and do not worry. Most of the times we worry because we do not have a strong guidance about what we need to do. If we had a perfect guide (actually, we do) who knows our situation much better than us, we would not worry much when we followed what our guide says us. So what?
I think the less you worry in these situations in life, the less you become "associater-like" (see the verse 3/160 and also 5/23 and 9/13).

My ONLY expectation from this marriage is to serve the purpose of Allah. This is why I take the risk of keeping unmarried until I find her (maybe all my life). I would like to fear Allah very much.

Some people may be scared when they hear these. They may interpret my emphasis in "fearing Allah" in a different (yet very common) way. They may say something like:
"Fearing God so much can one day lead someone to seclude himself from worldly life so he can worship God 24hours/7days"

I respect such concerns; but, the person I am looking for should be able to easily answer such a concern like:
"No, Quran never guides people to seclude themselves from life".
Of course, this requires well established Quranic knowledge (see the verse 73/4 for how to do this) and I DO expect that from my future wife.

These are not easy to explain; but when she sees my message, (if God wills) she will easily understand what I mean and expect. Overall, it is very short: "the verse 2/221 (when read with the whole Message)".

I thank you for letting me clarify my points.

My native language is Turkish and I speak English as a second language. I don't speak any other languages. I understand that speaking in a second language at home would be less comfortable than the native language, however I do think that this can be solved (otherwise Quran would have told and warned me to consider it as another criteria).

Speaking in accordance with the Message at home seems the most important and this is what I desire and pray for.

Brother, the warning in 2/221 is so severe! : "Those call to the Fire...",

and this is why I would like to stick on just 2/221 (read in accordance with the whole Message) as my criteria. Remember, how Allah continues His message in that verse:
"... but Allah invites to Paradise and to forgiveness, by His permission. And He makes clear His verses to the people that perhaps they may remember"

Finally, of course I am not a perfect person, this is an ongoing struggle to be well aligned with the whole Message (see verse 12/53), so my prayer is as in verse 2/286

"...Our Lord, and do not over-burden us with whatever is beyond our capability... "


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Re: 27-old male, looking for marriage with a sincere Quran follower
« Reply #5 on: February 20, 2014, 04:37:36 AM »
Alhamdulillah,

I am impressed by your sincerity and knowledge. But I would personally advise not to be too harsh on finding the perfect wife (as in someone who has already studied and analysed the Quran) because brother I think you can offer a lot.
I married someone with not as much knowledge as I had, but she was questioning the hadith cos they had started to seem fake to her. And together we studied Quran and now Alhamdulillah she is very knowledgeable in the Quran and is continuously studying its beauty and simple truthfulness. She has totally rejected hadith.
But my point brother is that I think if Allah accepts that the help I gave her in pointing out to her the truth helped her a lot, and I may just have saved her from falling prey to these hadithers!!
This is why I suggest you too could maybe guide another soul to the right path. The way one is able to guide their wives, it is much easier than guiding others.
This is just my advice brother.
BTW I do know a Quran only female but she is in Pakistan. She is very learned generally and has recently started rejecting hadith.

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Re: 27-old male, looking for marriage with a sincere Quran follower
« Reply #6 on: February 22, 2014, 01:38:53 AM »
Brother, thank you for your message. I would be happy to contact with anyone if she is still interested after she reads my explanations and expectations on this page. Peace be upon you.

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Re: 27-old male, looking for marriage with a sincere Quran follower
« Reply #7 on: May 24, 2014, 10:29:50 AM »
Asalam alaikum;
Your criterion gives the impression that you have an idealistic view of your soul mate. But in fact this is the  main requirement for anyone who believe in The Miracle of Miracles (QURAN).Taqwa place a very important role in believer's life.Everything begins and ends with taqwa.It needs alot of dedication to aquire a full knowlege of Quran but what matters most is ones devotion and deep feelings towards it.I do believe and understand that being sincere and devoted to Allah and His Book itself is a huge struggle which is unexplainable.May Allah succeed u in this life and life hereafter.
     I am dully impressed by your sincerity and knowledge and respect and admire your views.
Your well wisher.

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Re: 27-old male, looking for marriage with a sincere Quran follower
« Reply #8 on: May 24, 2014, 03:24:18 PM »
I'd advice everyone to pray for a spouse that suits you the best according to your spiritual journey and needs in this life... i.e. someone who will be very useful for you own betterment (and vice versa). Nobody is perfect, so our partner should be a blessing and vehicle for our improvement. Like the quran says... sometimes something we like is not good for us, and what we dislike may be good for us...

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Re: 27-old male, looking for marriage with a sincere Quran follower
« Reply #9 on: May 24, 2014, 04:33:17 PM »
I'd advice everyone to pray for a spouse that suits you the best according to your spiritual journey and needs in this life... i.e. someone who will be very useful for you own betterment (and vice versa). Nobody is perfect, so our partner should be a blessing and vehicle for our improvement. Like the quran says... sometimes something we like is not good for us, and what we dislike may be good for us...

Peace

Very good advice, brother.  :)

Thank you very much.


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