In search of a sincere, guided, believing woman!

[AyaLyfe]

When it comes to that feminism and earning money bit...all I will say is,

"Men are the providers for women, because Allah has stowed on the one more than the other, and for what they have to provide (for them) from their sources. So the righteous women are devotees and protect in the absence of their husbands that which God ordains to be protected."(Qur'an 4:34)" (sidenote: the verse context implies this second sentence is in reference to marital affair not obedience. Nushuz is used in reference to a woman's misbehavior in 4:34 and a man's misbehavior in 4:128, so the word "opposition" does not make the most sense in the verse, but rather disloyalty makes the most sense and fits in both verses.)

Why do you think you earn more in inheritance, you have more of an obligation to care for us?

Why do you think a pious man of the community looks over the adolescents inheritance until she is of mature age to handle it? You have a responsibility as men to protect. In my opinion, its because there are many other awful men out there trying so hard to do the opposite.

When it comes to a woman doing what she wants with her own money...

?And try orphans (as regards their intelligence) until they reach the age of marriage; if then you find sound judgement in them, release their property to them?? [al-Nisa? 4:6] Which means a woman orphan who is of sound judgment and proper age can control her own money.

[hanslan]

Salam lyro34

If you want a mate ask from the Lord. 

Ask for someone who is compatible to you, who will be together with you in your life's journey through good and bad times in accordance to the teachings of the Quran so that both you and your mate will end in heaven together.  Ask for a specific sign from the Lord,when the mate appears in your life she is the one you should commit to.

If you are trying to be specific, quoting verses, the Lord may grant you such a mate but she may not necessarily be compatible.  The specific sign is just to make it easier for you to identify the person should your prayers be answered.

If you wish for your mate to be Quranic, you must also be Quranic in practice otherwise she may be too hot to handle.

[huruf]

Marriage is part of the test. Marriage is not made for us to be happy but for us to become better and more sincere, and tha, even if one does not want it, may entail suffering. With this I donot mean to deter anybody only the cowards.

Salaam

[imrankhawaja]

marriage is not a part of test but its a very important question that never should miss lol

[Man of Faith]

Marriage is a test before the ultimate union that you find in God.

[truthseeker11]

Peace AyaLyfe,

Nushuz is used in reference to a woman's misbehavior in 4:34 and a man's misbehavior in 4:128

There is no evidence of any actual misbehavior in both signs. This is clear by the usage of "fear nushuz" or "feared nushuz", so the man or woman just have/had the fear of nushuz from the other and not actual nushuz in those signs. Some authors have assumed that 4:128 implies actual nushuz, but that is pure conjecture and a logical fallacy of unwarranted assumption. Then they draw a conclusion from this false conjecture, which renders their conclusion completely invalid.

Why do you think you earn more in inheritance, you have more of an obligation to care for us?

What about millions of women who are the breadwinners and care for their husbands who sit at home for any number of reasons while the women work? Why don't they get more inheritance? Also millions of men do not get married due to any number of reasons. Why do those men get more inheritance?

Peace