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Wootah

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Re: Are temporary marriages really part of Islam?
« Reply #10 on: November 21, 2010, 08:29:38 PM »
Hey just another thought popped into my head.

Are Muslims that were married on Earth still married in Paradise?
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Re: Are temporary marriages really part of Islam?
« Reply #11 on: November 22, 2010, 04:51:24 AM »
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TAJ

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Re: Are temporary marriages really part of Islam?
« Reply #12 on: November 22, 2010, 10:31:35 AM »
Looking at it that way, the answer to Wootah's question would be yes - since all marriages will end. But I don't think it was meant that way. Honestly, I thought it would last longer.

The expiry date should be initially agreed on by both parties. If you had no idea when it was going to end and  itcame as a surprise then you haven't been in a temporary (Mut3ah) marriage. You have only been mocked.

Misfar is not the same as Mut3ah.
There is also another thing that is called Al Misyar.

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Wootah

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Re: Are temporary marriages really part of Islam?
« Reply #13 on: November 22, 2010, 02:41:07 PM »
The expiry date should be initially agreed on by both parties. If you had no idea when it was going to end and  itcame as a surprise then you haven't been in a temporary (Mut3ah) marriage. You have only been mocked.

Misfar is not the same as Mut3ah.
There is also another thing that is called Al Misyar.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nikah_Misyar

What is a temporary marriage for? How do you express your love fully in a temporary marriage?
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Re: Are temporary marriages really part of Islam?
« Reply #14 on: November 22, 2010, 04:17:20 PM »
The expiry date should be initially agreed on by both parties. If you had no idea when it was going to end and  itcame as a surprise then you haven't been in a temporary (Mut3ah) marriage. You have only been mocked.

Misfar is not the same as Mut3ah.
There is also another thing that is called Al Misyar.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nikah_Misyar

Mocked?  :hmm  Or maybe you mean that I have been in a failed marriage? That I would agree with.

Ah, I see the info you give is relating to when a man takes on more than one wife...

Wootah, as far as I know there is not supposed to be temporary marriage in Islam. The purposes of it for those who have insisted would, I think, be sexual relations.  ::)
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Re: Are temporary marriages really part of Islam?
« Reply #15 on: November 22, 2010, 10:00:43 PM »
Mocked?  :hmm  Or maybe you mean that I have been in a failed marriage? That I would agree with.

Ah, I see the info you give is relating to when a man takes on more than one wife...

Wootah, as far as I know there is not supposed to be temporary marriage in Islam. The purposes of it for those who have insisted would, I think, be sexual relations.  ::)

You misunderstood my point.
If you were divorced because your time with him has expired without you knowing the whole deal while he did, then this is not a failed marriage. This is a mockery. He fooled you into believing that you are going to spend the rest of your life with him while in his mind he was planning to leave at a certain time. This is not marriage. This is deception.

Temporary (Mut3ah) marriage and polygamy are not the same thing.

 And I would like to add that temporary (Mut3ah) is not necessarily about sex. It can be about convenience. Also it can be a trial period before the couple would decide to make the big commitment: marriage for life.

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Re: Are temporary marriages really part of Islam?
« Reply #16 on: November 22, 2010, 10:08:38 PM »
Marriages fail for all types of reasons and there is no crime/sin in that. But when one partner has an agenda and a plan to use or manipulate or take advantage of their partner then that would be a crime against the unaware, trustful partner.

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Re: Are temporary marriages really part of Islam?
« Reply #17 on: November 22, 2010, 10:35:00 PM »
You misunderstood my point.
If you were divorced because your time with him has expired without you knowing the whole deal while he did, then this is not a failed marriage. This is a mockery. He fooled you into believing that you are going to spend the rest of your life with him while in his mind he was planning to leave at a certain time. This is not marriage. This is deception.


Yes I see Taj and you're right that is a deception.
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Re: Are temporary marriages really part of Islam?
« Reply #18 on: November 25, 2010, 02:42:45 PM »
And I would like to add that temporary (Mut3ah) is not necessarily about sex. It can be about convenience. Also it can be a trial period before the couple would decide to make the big commitment: marriage for life.

Mut3ah may be promoted as for convenience or for two people to be allowed to get to know each other in a halal way but unfortunately it always comes down to sex for those that practice it. A lot of guys Ive met do it to be able to sleep around. Ive never met anyone yet who done this and didn't sleep with their ''wife''.

I cant see Mut3ah as being part of this religion. It's done and promoted by people who can't control themselves. Islam is not about finding ways to satisfy your sexual urges. Unfortunately a lot of where Mut3ah is practiced and how to do it comes from Hadith.
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Re: Are temporary marriages really part of Islam?
« Reply #19 on: November 25, 2010, 09:16:29 PM »
Mut3ah may be promoted as for convenience or for two people to be allowed to get to know each other in a halal way but unfortunately it always comes down to sex for those that practice it. A lot of guys Ive met do it to be able to sleep around. Ive never met anyone yet who done this and didn't sleep with their ''wife''.

I cant see Mut3ah as being part of this religion. It's done and promoted by people who can't control themselves. Islam is not about finding ways to satisfy your sexual urges. Unfortunately a lot of where Mut3ah is practiced and how to do it comes from Hadith.

Common sense tells me this would true, though I have no experience of it myself. I've never met anyone who has had a temporary marriage.
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