Is it meant to be? Or not yet? Or never?

[nsws1988]

Salam,
This situation can be applied to anything in life but in my case it is marriage.
If something seems like a blessing from God that he has given you something special (ie the person I like, who is also my bestest friend in the whole wide world) and you want to turn it into something beautiful (ie get married and start a family) but it never seems to work out as planned (ie financial problems) and you pray to God everyday to help you out but nothing changes, how would you know if...

a) it isn't meant to be, so give up right now
b) it will happen at the right time which isn't now, so be patient
c) anything is possible if you work hard to get it, so work hard

I really like this person a lot, we have knows each other for years and both our families know... everything seems right about it and about us getting married. I feel that it was a blessing from God who has let us meet one another and make each other happy. I have been praying to God to help us for so long but nothing has changed 
You get so many sayings about a, b and c but which one is right?

[David_K]

Peace

I think b) and c) are the right ones to your situation and the boy you like.

You may find these past threads interesting:

http://free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=16771.0
http://free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=9597259.0
http://free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=9597310.30  ----------) Check out my post in this thread. It might answear some of your questions.
http://free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=9596536.msg3480#msg3480

[nsws1988]

Peace

I think b) and c) are the right ones to your situation and the boy you like.

You may find these past threads interesting:

http://free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=16771.0
http://free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=9597259.0
http://free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=9597310.30  ----------) Check out my post in this thread. It might answear some of your questions.
http://free-minds.org/forum/index.php?topic=9596536.msg3480#msg3480

Ooh that's a relief! I was hoping no one says a!
I try to keep positive but then think God has a plan for everyone, maybe this isnt part of the plan.
Thanks for the links. I love point 4 from the 1st link LOL
I'll definitely read the rest of those
Thanks!

[Alen]

Peace,
Respectfully.

Be patient.
God truly does have a Plan and it will work.
Besides, there is always a HereAfter. Stick to The Quran and you'll both enter Paradise, God willing.

Glory be to our God.
Peace.

[Elke]

Salam,
This situation can be applied to anything in life but in my case it is marriage.
If something seems like a blessing from God that he has given you something special (ie the person I like, who is also my bestest friend in the whole wide world) and you want to turn it into something beautiful (ie get married and start a family) but it never seems to work out as planned (ie financial problems) and you pray to God everyday to help you out but nothing changes, how would you know if...

a) it isn't meant to be, so give up right now
b) it will happen at the right time which isn't now, so be patient
c) anything is possible if you work hard to get it, so work hard

I really like this person a lot, we have knows each other for years and both our families know... everything seems right about it and about us getting married. I feel that it was a blessing from God who has let us meet one another and make each other happy. I have been praying to God to help us for so long but nothing has changed 
You get so many sayings about a, b and c but which one is right?

i'd say none of them, but rather a mix like
only if it's meant to be will it happen
so be patient and work on it and don't lose hope
if it's not meant to be, you'll come to understand it in time and you'll let go

good luck !

[Bosnian Thinker]

Salam,
This situation can be applied to anything in life but in my case it is marriage.
If something seems like a blessing from God that he has given you something special (ie the person I like, who is also my bestest friend in the whole wide world) and you want to turn it into something beautiful (ie get married and start a family) but it never seems to work out as planned (ie financial problems) and you pray to God everyday to help you out but nothing changes, how would you know if...

a) it isn't meant to be, so give up right now
b) it will happen at the right time which isn't now, so be patient
c) anything is possible if you work hard to get it, so work hard

I really like this person a lot, we have knows each other for years and both our families know... everything seems right about it and about us getting married. I feel that it was a blessing from God who has let us meet one another and make each other happy. I have been praying to God to help us for so long but nothing has changed 
You get so many sayings about a, b and c but which one is right?

I would definitely suggest a!!!!!!!!!

[san]

Salaam, nsws1988,

Despite the last post above -- any update?

[Rev.John]

i'd say none of them, but rather a mix like
only if it's meant to be will it happen
so be patient and work on it and don't lose hope
if it's not meant to be, you'll come to understand it in time and you'll let go

good luck !

I tend to agree with this. It could be any one of a, b, or c, or it could be a mixture of any two or all three. Maybe, instead of praying to God for the result you want, perhaps you should pray for his guidance to understand what result God wants for you.

[nsws1988]

Salaam, nsws1988,

Despite the last post above -- any update?

Not really  we're still together though 

[afridi220]

Not really  we're still together though 

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