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General Issues / Questions / Why do most Muslims remain Sunnis
« on: Yesterday at 05:38:01 PM »

Some seem really sincere like they want to please God, be a good person, and enter heaven. Some are semi-religious and not that interested in figuring things out on a deeper level. Others are more Muslim by name and just see it as part of their identity or culture and nothing they seriously care about. Some unfortunately are egotistic and care more about looking like a good Muslim to others than seeking the truth. Do they all just not question enough? A lot of these people are smart as well and probably more intelligent than me in other areas of life yet they can't figure out the true message of the Qur'an?

(I became a Quran aloner because I kept questioning why God never literally commanded us to follow hadith, what evidence do we have that sahih hadith are to be followed if they're not preserved like the Qur'an? Why do the hadith contain extra laws outside of the Qur'an if the hadith are supposed to only explain Quranic laws? Why are there harsh/ strange laws in hadith? etc. Had I not questioned these things, I may have stayed being a Sunni.)

Is it an emotional attachment to Sunni Islam, Sunni parents, or the community? Fear of losing their Sunni connections and unity? Practicing Sunni Muslims read the Qur'an in English so this shows that they're trying to figure out the meaning of the Qur'an. Then again, speaking from personal experience, some hadith used to give me hope and were pleasant to read like you felt part of a bigger community when you read the pleasant hadith...the ones that teach you to be kind, not to steal, etc., or comforting ones like the ones that state that you will see believing relatives after death, etc. and then gives you examples of how so and so saw their dead relative. Sometimes hadith did give you hope for the hereafter, etc. Going to the mosque even as a female gave you a sense of unity, watching stuff like Islam Channel made me feel like I was part of something bigger and I did feel a sense of unity, Eid prayers, bonding over the normal/ pleasant parts of Sunni Islam with friends, Muslim events etc. I guess you really do miss out on this sense of unity once you turn to the Qur'an alone.


General Issues / Questions / I have a weird question
« on: January 11, 2023, 08:30:12 PM »

Since we are Qur'an alone believers and we know the Qur'an is true and that there are few of us...

Do you ever notice anything peculiar about how people treat you? Like maybe a lot of people are put off by you and sometimes you think it may be any number of prejudices like racism, sexism, lookism, classism, etc., or other characteristics but then you realise these same people get on with other people regardless of their backgrounds...maybe something about your 'energy' doesn't quite sit right with theirs?

Sometimes I wonder, maybe it's shaytan trying to make us lonely or jinn somehow changing people's perception of us...jinn can see us but we can't see them...I still sometimes wonder if those 'jinn are really a different kind of human' theories are true...


On second thoughts, I do not think jinn are a type of human...I think they're literally invisible beings/ spirits

Matrimony / 'Muslim Women Can Marry Peaceful Non-Muslim Men'
« on: January 02, 2023, 10:10:27 PM »

So there's this article I read on a Qur'an alone website titled 'Muslim Women Can Marry Peaceful Non-Muslim Men':

Could he be right? Maybe the Qur'an was referring to 'aggressive mushriks' who were at war with Muslims?

Off-Topic / Anyone else feel alone in the Quran Alone community
« on: January 02, 2023, 09:17:23 PM »

When I was a sunni it was easier to not feel alone when I was around other Muslims because we would genuinely have the same faith and I would often go to mosque and feel some sort of spiritual connection with others there. But since being a Quran aloner, I never went to sunni mosques again. I sometimes manage to connect or be friends with sunnis and if they ask me about my religion I just say I'm Muslim. I feel a *slight* connection there since you know, we probably had a similar upbringing etc. religiously speaking but I don't bring up that I'm a Qur'an aloner. Sometimes that makes me feel like I have imposter syndrome...
At times I will randomly feel a strong connection with people based on personality but when it comes to faith I feel really lonely unless I read Qur'an but in my daily life, I just feel this spiritual loneliness...

Anyone else feel the same?


I know some people do not interpret salat as ritual prayer but I am convinced that it is ritual prayer.

However, I find it really hard to pray at work because I don't wear the hijab and obviously as Quran alone Muslims, we pray differently. The thing about my workplace is there's no prayer room so if you pray, your co-workers will most likely see you praying. A lot of my co-workers happen to be traditional Muslims. It's so awkward! I don't pray at work, only at home. I feel guilty about this because I miss prayers because of it. Can I not just pray in my head? I've also thought about wearing a headscarf whilst praying to avoid criticism but wouldn't that be people-pleasing? Is it okay to do this to avoid judgment?

Do you pray at work? How do you deal with this situation?


Is this true? Sunnis often say this. But evil people suffer too?

General Issues / Questions / Why does it seem like some people's test....
« on: October 25, 2022, 09:50:09 PM »

Why does it seem like some people's tests are WAY harder than others?

For example, some people are born without certain limbs, some are born blind, others look unattractive and it affects most areas of their life. Others are immigrants which comes with its own set of challenges whereas other people's health, looks, social status and racial identity make their lives so much easier. You might say, yeah but you don't know if that picture perfect person is depressed or have some illness but then you also know of people who are not picture perfect and have all the challenges I mentioned earlier plus they're depressed and suicidal.

General Issues / Questions / How do you respond to people who say
« on: August 07, 2022, 01:35:10 PM »

that the Qur'an tells us to follow Allah, his messenger and those who believe/ scholars/ those with knowledge?

General Issues / Questions / Why do miracles not happen in our time
« on: July 30, 2022, 07:31:30 AM »

Could it be because we are near the very end? Maybe the only miracle we'll witness is the day of judgment? Because why would God give so many past nations miracles yet leave us with none?


When I say Islamic, I mean Quranic Islam, not traditional Islam.

Traditionally speaking, old-fashioned gender roles are for a woman to stay at home, cook, clean and make her husband the centre of her world. To be submissive to her husband. To dress 'feminine' although femininity is defined by culture in terms of clothes, hairstyles etc. Men are traditionally the breadwinners, told to be strong, aggressive, hide and not express certain emotions to appear 'strong'.

Many men are intimidated by women who have achieved more than them in terms of career and education. However, people in general including women are treated as inferior if they do not reach a certain level of education or career. Should a woman give up on her educational and career aspirations and be treated as inferior by most of society just to please a man or potential suitors? On the other hand, she can always date and marry men with greater job status than her even if she has a PhD however, a lot of men would be missing out on potentially great partners if they keep this egotistic attitude. Many traditionally minded men want their women to depend on them, especially financially i.e. not making enough money to live on intentionally. However, many women do not want to be dependent on their partner to this extent because 1. Why make yourself intentionally dependent on a man if you can help yourself? 2. A man can change i.e. turn from a kind-hearted, trustworthy spouse into a cold-hearted, aggressive abuser and then you're stuck. It's a trap. A smart person will strive to be independent and help themselves if they can and are fortunate enough to achieve this. Also, if a man truly loved a woman, he would protect her but also want her to be able to help herself because he knows he's not invincible and would want her to survive and not live in poverty if he were to die or become incapable of looking after her financially (or otherwise). He would also bear in mind that any kids or family members who depend on his wife will also more likely survive if she has a job or is educated. I am not talking about protective men, I'm talking about men who need their woman to not be able to survive without them in order to feel manly and therefore feed their ego.

Men shouldn't be aggressive to their wives, women or anyone in general. Men are told to be the protectors and maintainers of women however, this is very different from being a controlling, aggressive man who thinks women exist to serve him. Where in the Qur'an does it mention that a woman has to serve her husband? It's not a very romantic concept. There was a verse where submitting to God is mistaken for submitting to one's husband. One should try to share household duties out of love, kindness and necessity, not because of some slave-master gender roles. Also in terms of any decision in life, a woman should not be forced to stay at home if her husband tells her she's not allowed to work or get an education simply because the husband has no right to make halal things haram. Yet so many cultures still have this backward concept. But it's also in life in general. Many husbands control every aspect of their wives' lives from what she eats, who her friends are to what she shops for which is toxic, yet they see it as 'Islamic'. They feel as if a woman needs their permission to do anything at all. A woman is a grown-up human being, not a slave. Treating her as if she is a slave or a servant is toxic.

From what I know, Quranically speaking, a woman is allowed to work and have a career. She's allowed to have an education. Many men seem to hate women like this and think of it as 'manly' but what about women who do not have a husband or working males in their families? Are they supposed to be viewed as manly for trying to achieve a livelihood for themselves and their families? For trying to survive, have a decent standard of living and avoid poverty? This is why I think traditional lines of thinking can be very toxic. It is always assumed that the woman has options which is not true. It can take years to find a suitable partner, if at all. Even if she's married and working, I don't see how that is not womanly or masculine. A strong woman is still a woman, not a man.

Quranically speaking, a woman doesn't even need to have long hair or wear a dress. She can chop all of her hair off if she so wishes and wear trousers and shirts if that's what she prefers. Nowhere in the Qur'an does it state that it is a woman's job to cook and clean i.e. take care of the home (correct me if I'm wrong) and it makes most sense if both spouses share these chores equally. It also makes sense if a stay-at-home spouse who's not working from home does more household duties be it a woman or a man but again there's no implication that it is because of their gender.

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