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I am keen on understanding the Quranic take on the roles of a husband and wife.
The responsibilities given to them, how equal are they?
plus I've seen some duties being very clear when it comes to the husband only but not when it comes to the wife.
For example, financial responsibilities and looking after the the wife/children and house is in the Quran for the husband. what about the wife?
I will really appreciate if someone can show me verses in the quran that touch this subject.

Thank you

Before getting married, I discussed the setup we'd like to adopt as a husband and wife in our relationship.

We both agreed on a more contemporary setup, being one where we will put equal effort in every aspect of our life, meaning equal financial contribution, house chores and so on.

Aspect where we couldn't achieve that, we balanced it but doing something else (i.e she's better at cooking so I look after the grocery, house work etc)

We also agreed that once she goes into maternity leave, I'll take over all the finances, which is what I've done.

Now that she's on maternity leave, we had some arguments and she brought this matter up saying using Islam to make a point, be that as a husband it is my duty to provide financially anyway as well as to look after the family.

She rubbed this on my face a few times before as well and I let it go. I now asked her what's the point of bringing this up when we clearly agreed on our arrangements and we have both been honouring them.

The reason why she brought it up was to tell me how in Islam the man has the duty of providing financially as well as looking after the family and the women doesn't have to do anything unless the man is absent, in which case she looks after the family.

I have always tried to be fair and rather than using religion to set some roles, I looked at the circumstances and thought it would be nice to have a setup where everyone does everything.

However, now that my role is to provide financially, I'd have thought that it would be her to role to look after the house primarily, and obviously, after work, I would help where I can.

I have seen clear verses in the Quran showing the role of a man when it comes to looking after the family and providing financially but I did not see clear verses about the role of a woman.

Can anyone help me understand, based on Quranic verses only, what the roles, duties are of a husband and wife?

Thank you

As the title suggests, I'm curious about people's thoughts on what's their definition of Feminism.

The definition it's clear at first

the advocacy of women's rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes.

However, as you dive into this enormous labyrinth of social/cultural/religious protocols, you quickly start to realise how distorted this definition becomes.

The discourse on this matter is long and complicated so I would like to discuss this ideology on specific aspects.

If you're an advocate of feminism, how do you apply it in your day to day life in a Marriage?

How do you uphold the values of this ideology and how do you expect your spouse to uphold them?

Thank you

Assalamualeikum

I didn't know where to ask this question and after reading some of the topics on this section, I felt like this might be the most appropriate place.

I need some advice on a situation I'm currently dealing with (I hope both men and especially women on this site can provide their perspective)

I met a woman through my family, we went to see them, they came to see us and eventually we exchanged numbers so that I and the girl can get to know each other better

We are all muslims, both from good families and felt like there's nothing to be alarmed, obviously too early too jump to any conclusions.

The girl is well educated, career focused but also family oriented, when we speak, she's always been very nice and responded to all of my questions

However, I kept getting the feeling she's not interested and she's holding herself back

The reason why I think this is because:
- On our first meet I asked plenty of questions and whilst she replied to all, her questions were simply redirecting my questions to me
- On the second meet the situation was the same, with the exception that she did ask me one question of her own
- Over the phone the situation was the same, I would ask question, she will politely answer all of them and bounce the same question back to me but no questions from her side
- I didn't contact her for 3 days and she never tried to contact me either

- Right after our first meet, I told my family that she might not be interested but then their family wanted a second meet

My family told me that she might be a shy person, however she never gave the impression of being shy, a shy person will struggle to answer, will limit herself to short answers, all patterns I didn't notice in her

- I have also, implicitly, explained her that I feel like she's not interested and she told me that she and her family is interested, they will never waste anyone's time if they weren't, she also added that I might perceive this because she's an introvert person

Now I'm genuinely struggling to understand this person. Communication is key and effort must be from both side; there are situations where people are shy so don't know what to do but this doesn't even look like one of those case.

Do you think it's normal for some girls to behave like this? They simply answers to questions like it's an interview, bounce back the same question but no effort in initiating any kind of conversation

I'm asking this because my concern is that the girl might be under pressure and with all the sad things going on with arrange marriages where you find family hiding things, now that they found someone genuine, the family might be asking her to give it a go but she might not have the same feeling

I just don't know what to do, I like the girl but I want to make sure the feelings are reciprocal, intents speak louder than words and I'm making the effort to know her but don't get the same impression but I feel like I might be wrong as some girls are like that, although I never came across one like this

Hi everyone,

I am having a discussion with a friend who believe that the rule of segregation exists in Islam whereas I did not find anything in the Quran that states that (unless I haven't looked enough).

The discussion promoted a debate where he said that any kind of interaction between men and women isn't allowed(between two strangers obviously) and this includes talking face to face as well as online.

He also pointed out a few hadiths that basically prove his points.

I know this forum isn't about Hadith but what I found quite effective in my experience is to propose contradictory hadiths as a counterargument, as using the Quran alone gets ignored most of the time and most people don't even understand your message (unless you tell them directly you follow the Quran only,which I don't)
However, showing them parts of Hadiths that are contradicting other parts of their Hadiths makes the debate very efficient as the next question is (why do you choose to believe this section of the hadith and not the other?

I know some of you guys actually have been learning about Hadiths as well and have knowledge in that area and my question is if you know of any Hadith(preferably the most of used ones ) where interaction between genders wasn't forbidden and was happening ?

Thank you

 

Sahih International: And I will mislead them, and I will arouse in them [sinful] desires, and I will command them so they will slit the ears of cattle, and I will command them so they will change the creation of Allah." And whoever takes Satan as an ally instead of Allah has certainly sustained a clear loss.

Yusuf Ali: "I will mislead them, and I will create in them false desires; I will order them to slit the ears of cattle, and to deface the (fair) nature created by Allah." Whoever, forsaking Allah, takes satan for a friend, hath of a surety suffered a loss that is manifest.

I am a bit confused about this verse, are there other verses related to this that can make this verse clear?

My understanding about this verse is that the Shaytaan/Satan is challenging God/Allah by declaring that he will mislead humans. Satan goes on by telling what sort of things he?ll do, such as:

1)   I will mislead them
2)   I will create in them false desires
3)   I will order them to slit the ears of cattle
4)   I will command them so they will change the creation of Allah

Two points are not clear to me:
What?s the exact meaning behind point 3? Slitting the ears of cattle it?s not a sentence that I am finding compatible in this context (if I read this literally) so my understanding is that it must have another meaning.
-Point number 4 it?s vague in this case and doesn?t really help when it comes to understand what changes it refers to. So the subject is ?Creation of God?(humans, animals, anything created by God)
What kind of change does it refer to?

I was having this discussion with a friend and my opinion is that they are not allowed. However I am not aware of a place in the Quran that states whether such thing is allowed or not.

I know that the Quran doesn't have to explicitly forbid or allow everything and there might some rules that give us some hint about whether such practice is allowed or now.

Reading a few topics on here, I couldn't find the verse that tells people not to alter what God has made. Now, if someone, can kindly tell me the name of that verse so I can check what it exactly means.

Additionally, if you have come across verse that you feel might apply to this category, please let me know.

Thank you

[Fast starting time:Eat and drink until the white thread and the black thread of the dawn becomes distinct to you.]

I know this has been asked before and I have been reading a few topics about this, some very interesting. I hope you don?t mind me opening a new thread and discuss your views and if you have come across any further piece of information useful to understand the timing for fast.

2:187 احل لكم ليلة الصيام الرفث الى نسائكم هن لباس لكم وانتم لباس لهنعلم الله انكم كنتم تختانون انفسكم فتاب عليكم وعفا عنكم فالن بشروهنوابتغوا ما كتب الله لكم وكلوا واشربوا حتى يتبين لكم الخيط الابيض منالخيط الاسود من الفجر ثم اتموا الصيام الى اليل ولا تبشروهن وانتم عكفونفى المسجد تلك حدود الله فلا تقربوها كذلك يبين الله ءايته للناس لعلهميتقون


Ohilla lakum laylata alssiyamialrrafathu ila nisa-ikum hunna libasunlakum waantum libasun lahunna AAalima Allahuannakum kuntum takhtanoona anfusakum fatabaAAalaykum waAAafa AAankum faal-ana bashiroohunnawaibtaghoo ma kataba Allahu lakum wakuloo waishraboohatta yatabayyana lakumu alkhaytu al-abyadumina alkhayti al-aswadi mina alfajri thumma atimmoo alssiyamaila allayli walatubashiroohunna waantum AAakifoonafee almasajidi tilka hudoodu Allahi falataqraboohakathalika yubayyinu Allahu ayatihililnnasi laAAallahum yattaqoona

Edip-Layth (Quran: A Reformist Translation)
2:187 It has been made lawful for you during the night of fasting to approach your women sexually. They are a garment for you and you are a garment for them. God knows that you used to betray yourselves so He has accepted your repentance, and forgiven you; now you may approach them and seek what God has written for you. You may eat and drink until the white thread is distinct from the black thread of dawn; then you shall complete the fast until night; and do not approach them while you are devoted in the temples. These are God's boundaries, so do not transgress them. It is thus that God makes His signs clear to the people that they may be righteous.51

Fast starting time:Eat and drink until the white thread and the black thread of the dawn becomes distinct to you.
So according to the above, the fast starts at dawn (before sunrise).





Fast end time: The complete the fast till the night.
According to this the fast finishes when is night.

Completing the fast is different than how I am normally accustomed to, we open iftari at sunset and not at night.

To those of you who fast how do you use the verse above to fast?

Peace

Hello everyone,

I was this discussion with a friend and it got me really curious; I would like to know your opinion on this matter.

The discussion was that women can't pray,recite the Quran or touch it during menstruation.

I found only one verse in the Quran that talks about menstruation [2:222], however it doesn't say anything about forbidding prays
What's the ruling?

I was reading a bit of history about prophet Muhamamad and I couldn't get much details about the number of wives he had.


Hadiths mention different numbers and ages.

Does the Quran say something about how many wives he had?

Thank you

I was going through the following link on how to read the Quran
http://free-minds.org/how-read-and-study-quran

However the link to essential grammar in arabic doesn't work.

I am wondering if someone can suggest a good book/pdf I can use to learn how classical arabic works?

Thank you

[clarification]

I am trying to do some search on the original meaning of a word but struggling as some steps are not clear to me.

For example the verse 16:89 says the following:http://corpus.quran.com/wordbyword.jsp?chapter=16&verse=89#(16:89:1)

Sahih International: And [mention] the Day when We will resurrect among every nation a witness over them from themselves. And We will bring you, [O Muhammad], as a witness over your nation. And We have sent down to you the Book as clarification for all things and as guidance and mercy and good tidings for the Muslims.

BOLD: I am interested in the the root definition of this word as it seems to be used differently (plain,detailed etc.). I know those are synonyms but just for piece of mind and also to get into the habit of searching root of each word, I would like to learn this.

I followed the following link:

http://www.studyquran.co.uk/PRLonline.htm


However, step 4 onward is unclear to me.

If i extract the root I get this:

As clarification = tib'yānan = yānan(clarification) --> ynn (root)

How do I search the meaning of it and know whether I got the right root?

Thank you

I don't know whether this question has been asked before but there are discussions about similar questions.

I feel like in this forum people are from different sectarian groups(obviously many of you are trying to get out of this sectarian mentality)
The question is, has any of you ever researched differences between all these groups?
What things makes them all different that they fall in different categories?
It would be nice to know this and why this is? is it as a result of different Quranic interpretation or choosing to believe in different Hadiths?or both?

I think knowing about the differences and the reasons behind them is a good way to find unity because you can find what went wrong more easily.

I have been reading on this matter to find what are the differences and would appreciate some more opinions and views on this regard.

The way I have been told to do wudu is totally different than the verse in the Quran in 5:6

"O you who believe! when you rise up to prayer, wash your faces and your hands as far as the elbows, and wipe your heads and your feet to the ankles;"

Here's the link for the lexicon:

http://corpus.quran.com/wordbyword.jsp?chapter=5&verse=6#(5:6:1)



What I follow is an extension of the both the Quranic verse 5:6 and Hadith No. 142 Narrated / Authority of: Ata bin Yasar

"Ibn 'Abbas performed ablution and washed his face (in the following way): He ladled out a handful of water, rinsed his mouth and washed his nose with it by putting in water and then blowing it out. He then, took another handful (of water) and did like this (gesturing) joining both hands, and washed his face, took another handful of water and washed his right forearm. He again took another handful of water and washed his left forearm, and passed wet hands over his head and took another handful of water and poured it over his right foot (up to his ankles) and washed it thoroughly and similarly took another handful of water and washed thoroughly his left foot (up to the ankles) and said, "I saw Allah's Apostle performing ablution in this way."

The way I perform wudu is similar to this:

Hand's (x3)
Mouth (x3)
Nose (x3)
Face (x3)
Arm's (x3)

Hair (x1) [Wipe the head with wet fingers starting at the fringe to the back of the hairline and back the same way all in one movement]

Ears (x1)
Feet (x3)

Now if we analyse the content,not only the way I have been thought to do wudu is different than the Quranic verse but also than the Hadith( I only found one verse in the Hadith instructing how to perform ablution, is anyone aware of more citations that are similar to the way i perform abolution )


What are your views on this matter?

Thank you

Good morning everyone,

I have been recently asking questions arounds to my friends  in regards to what they think of the Hadith and whether it should be considered when learning the Quran.

All of them said that it should be considered and is invaluable as it explains things that are hard to understand otherwise.

I,then told them, what about the fact that the Quran claims to be a complete book and no other source should be required.

Some of them made a point that Hadith isn't claimed to be an independent source of Islam; it's simply an invaluable historical record of the life of the prophet(pbuh)

Now my question is what if some of things we do today are as a result of just what the hadith says and not written in the Quran.

if there are such things, can you point them out ?

Thanks