Peace be upon you all,
I have been having relationship problems with a Christian girl that I have been dating. Our different belief systems never conflicted and in fact, we have had many talks about God. Matter of fact, it seems that I am more knowledgeable on the Bible than she is. We have known each other for some time and promised under God that we were married (we don't believe that the institution is necessary) and to treat each other as a spouse. We called each other husband and wife and her parents expect us to get married. She finished college (I am almost done) and she returned to her native land late last year. We kept contact with each other and long distance was never a problem. As a matter of fact, I told her to feel as if I was always with her in spirit regardless. I would wake up an hour early before work to talk to her and even skipped on studying so that I could accommodate her time difference. I even helped her with her English instead of focusing on my work.
In a relationship, for me, the spouse takes priority after God. We talked about this many times and she agreed to it. She has a passion for kids and she even told me that I took priority over them. After she got a teachers position fulltime she began to spend more time with her children. I felt strange even before she got the job and would ask her where I stood in regards to her priorities. She never gave me a straight answer and said that she loved both kids and me equally. When I asked her 4 months ago, I had to pry it out of her. She then said, "I have to tell you honestly, I do not know if I can live without kids." I had my answer, even though it was unspoken.
I have tried talking to her and try to understand her, but she all she says is "I'm sorry." or acts as if she has no idea what is going on. The week that we had the fallout, I told her that I was coming to Korea and she replied with, "What for?" as if nothing happened. Communication has thus been scarce for the past 4 months, with only 1 sentence replies from her. She was supposed to come earlier this month on my birthday/graduation. She told me last minute that she was coming in "late June". I sent her an email 3 weeks ago, a full page, and again a one sentence response, "I am sorry that I was hard on you, hope you are doing well" and added "I am coming with my students and teachers."
Shes one of these Christians that has "visions" from God. One was to open a school in Africa for Christians. I questioned and asked why only for Christians? Later, a new vision, it should be for everyone! Later I asked, "Why in Africa? People suffer right here!" Then she said God gave her a new vision, to be anywhere! She also tries to go to church everyday at dawn, this is a practice in her native land.
She comes back next week and we are supposed to talk. She has destroyed my spirit, murdered it basically. The way she responds digs the knife deeper. Her nonchalant attitude makes me feel as if I am an enemy or a stranger. I saved myself for one person my entire life. I even told her this but all she said was "I'm sorry". Can anyone give me some advice on how to go about it? Can someone give me Bible and Quran references?
Peace be upon you
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