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Peace

As many of you already know, I am struggling to keep a roof over my head.

I am about to become homeless as I already went to the court hearing over rent arrears. Before you judge me just know that I did what I could to try and prevent it but it happened anyway.

Common stereotypes of homeless people- they drink, they do drugs, they're lazy- I do not fit these stereotypes. I've never drank alcohol in my lifetime, I don't do drugs and I've continuously job searched and been ignored by most job applications or rejected after having job interviews. My family let me down because our rent was high and they expected me to pay the rent for the whole household on my own. As you can see, it has been a sad and unfair situation.

I've reached out to my council and I am still trying to get help like temporary accommodation from them but it's hard or almost impossible to get a council house when you're in rent arrears especially if you're not a British citizen so I don't know what will happen. I feel scared especially since I'm a woman and it's winter...

Someone suggested I try to get help from a Sunni mosque or charity since they have the biggest charities amongst Muslims. My question is, would it be wrong for a Qur'an alone Muslim to seek help be it accommodation or zakaat charity from a Sunni mosque?

Peace Ervin,

I am so sorry you're going through this. The same thing happened to one of my parents years ago.

I am glad she survived the operation and is recovering. Not everyone makes it past that stage. I hope she's getting the care she needs. I remember being in the intensive care unit with my parent. This reminds me of that.

I hope you get to see her again in person Insha'Allah. May Allah grant you ease.

Salam brothers & sisters,

Please share this fundraiser with anyone willing to help.

Salam,

Please if anyone can share this fundraiser with people who you think may help, please do

Salam
I am still struggling to pay my rent. I got an eviction notice in May (actually in June since they sent it late to me via email). The landlord hasn't taken me to court yet so I'm not homeless yet. He did shout at me to get out though and doesn't even speak directly to me anymore.

The housing situation is complicated because I can't afford to get into a new home, especially not alone as I do not earn enough, and shared accommodation doesn't feel like a safe option for a Muslim female who's also a minority. I can't leave my immediate family to live alone.

There's some money to pay next month's rent but it's less than half. I need help to pay the remainder. Please help me pay the remainder if you can help. I am still applying for jobs and getting interviews but no new job so far sadly.

Right now, I am in a lot of pain because I've recently developed a painful condition called sciatica. I can only sleep 4 hours at a time and then wake up every night with nerve pain. I'm on the highest dosage of painkillers and still in pain mostly even after taking them and there are times in between when you must wait a few hours until the 24-hour interval is over if you've taken the max. dose because it's the daily limit and that's when it gets tough. This health problem has been slowing me down.

I know I've asked for help before over the months and years, but most of the time, I've avoided asking for help and there's been many months where I paid about just half the rent.

On a side note, please boycott the most famous fast-food place you know beginning with M. They give me (and many other coworkers) 1 shift per week despite knowing we specifically need more hours. I think they do this to save on costs because why hire lots of full-time staff who will need extra benefits etc. They don't care if their employees go homeless if they're making a profit off us. I'm not bad at my job. I'm mostly on time. I get on with people.

Pray for me. I want to be financially independent.

https://gofund.me/0e8d4b52

only God knows*

Peace Good Logic

Thank you for reaching out and for the advice.

Even though it seems like I will no longer live with my family in the future because I have no other choice but to leave if they do not agree on a new home, this is depressing to me because I will have to live with strangers and God only know what these strangers will be like. They may end up worse than my family.

Peace

I am not making another fundraiser or asking for money. I'm asking for advice.

I'm about to go homeless despite paying my share of the rent and despite trying to find work. I'm unlucky when it comes to job success. I've applied for jobs for months (years even) and all I got was rejections or I never made it to the interview stage mostly. I got rejected at a recent interview too. At work I only have a part-time job and I don't make much.

I don't know what's wrong with my family but I've told them what the landlord told me, that we're being evicted soon but they do not do anything and they seem unphased which is not normal behaviour. Most people would be frightened like I am. So no matter how much I asked them to contribute to the rent, they never did and never will. At this point, I think I will try to get into shared accommodation as it's the only housing that seems affordable since I'm earning extremely low income. I don't know what else to do. If I don't have an address, no future employer will employ me so I have to live with strangers (which is scary for a younger woman).

My family remind me of all those people in the Qur'an who God warned again and again but they do not listen and then disaster strikes.

Even if I manage to get shared accommodation, I know I will think about my family every day and will be depressed if they are homeless. I simply can't afford to help them even if I wanted to and they're not willing to help themselves. My mum didn't contribute to rent even though she could contribute some of it. My older brother isn't willing to work or even get benefits but he talks to people online all day. Because of this, we are £1000s in debt to the point where I think even the council will not be willing to help us get a cheaper council house because they don't usually help people in rent arrears as I read today.

I asked my mum if me and her could search for a new cheaper home together but she just ignored me and made fun of the situation. She makes jokes about living under a bridge. It's as if everything is a joke to her, even her own life. I question her mental health. Could this be a sign of dementia? Even if she's doing this out of cruelty, even cruel people wouldn't want themselves to go homeless. Her behaviour makes no sense to me. I think I will get a social worker involved.

If anyone has been through something similar or knows stories where things work out in the end, can you share them with me on here or through PMs? I have a feeling that my family do not like me because of my faith. I think this is happening to me because Shaytan is trying to hurt me through them.

Peace

I noticed that there was a major flaw/blunder in a sentence in my first post in this thread. I forgot to write the word (financially) in my sentence, which actually changed the meaning of the whole sentence. Let me fix the sentence.

How does your family "financially" abuse you?

Peace

They make me pay all of the rent which is over £1000 and do not contribute, not even one penny even though they are supposed to. I suspect they're narcissists or even sociopaths.

I tried to become something but despite trying, I haven't gotten anywhere so far. I work a minimum-wage job. It's hard to get promoted especially when there are corporate politics involved. I'm not giving up but what I am saying is that a lack of success isn't entirely in a person's hands. It's in Allah's hands.

Peace

They always say Hamas is using civilians as human shields but never present evidence:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i2YX2S-RJM0