Quote from: jkhan on April 21, 2023, 10:59:20 PM
Peace Sister... Hope you are doing well...
I think it is little hefty to rush on this topic and say polygamy is not allowed...
Trust me, I'm serious.
Quote from: jkhan on April 21, 2023, 10:59:20 PM
Yes... If one takes the verse 24:32 in one angle we may end up yes polygamy is not allowed.. Apart from all other verses which is manifested that polygamy were practiced and never discouraged by Allah ..
What he instructs is what matters right? Then there is:
33:50 O Prophet, indeed We have made lawful to you your wives to whom you have given their due compensation and those your right hand possesses from what Allah has returned to you and the daughters of your paternal uncles and the daughters of your paternal aunts and the daughters of your maternal uncles and the daughters of your maternal aunts who emigrated with you and a believing woman if she gives herself to the Prophet [and] if the Prophet wishes to marry her, only for you, excluding the believers. We certainly know what We have made obligatory upon them concerning their wives and those their right hands possess, in order that there will be upon you no discomfort. And ever is Allah Forgiving and Merciful.
Quote from: jkhan on April 21, 2023, 10:59:20 PM
When it comes to this particular verse, it doesn't literally mean never marry widow or divorced, If one marry only unmarried... Encouragment here is manifest... Why not prioritise those who not at all married in life rather than who have already married in life..
Nah, they are considered single:
And those who are taken in death among you and leave wives behind - they, wait four months and ten [days]. And when they have fulfilled their term, then there is no blame upon you for what they do with themselves in an acceptable manner. And Allah is [fully] Acquainted with what you do. There is no blame upon you for that to which you [indirectly] allude concerning a proposal to women or for what you conceal within yourselves. Allah knows that you will have them in mind. But do not promise them secretly except for saying a proper saying. And do not determine to undertake a marriage contract until the decreed period reaches its end. And know that Allah knows what is within yourselves, so beware of Him. And know that Allah is Forgiving and Forbearing. 2:234-235
Quote from: jkhan on April 21, 2023, 10:59:20 PM
So when Allah says by this verse marry those who never married or single doesn't directly give us a criteria that people are not allowed to marry multiple women.. Is it?
On top of that if we take the verse in this manner, suppose one man is married already has a wife (free or not free) but marrying another woman who is single.. So.. Marry those who are single doesn't mean literally polygamy is not allowed...
As we saw above, only Prophet was given the privilege. But the verse I am having trouble finding also mentions umm sons were married to their moms at the time. God told them to not divorce just because they became believer. In short, if someone married multiple women but later finds out that it isnt approved by God there is no need to divorce. We have one (inactive) brother here who practiced polygamy before coming to Quran alone. No one ever pointed finger at him for that. This community is very understanding.
Quote from: jkhan on April 21, 2023, 10:59:20 PM
Well don't misunderstand me.. I am not polygamous and not even married and happy being single out of destiny...
Don't you dare calling it your destiny.
Quote from: jkhan on April 21, 2023, 10:59:20 PM
Further to that, if God states not to marry teo biological sisters at a time, then the question is what about two women at a time who are not biological sisters? Of God said two women at time by this verse then seal for polygamy.. Unless if anyone argues that the word doesn't state biological sisters but just sisters in faith then perhaps polygamy is not allowed..
Which verse?
Societies have this tendency to change here and there. That's how polygamy gets in but God wouldn't want families to break!
Quote from: Amra94 on April 21, 2023, 11:09:54 PM4:129
Could be saying a man can't love all wives equally and it's not his fault but he shouldn't completely neglect one. And since it's saying not to leave one hanging, doesn't that show polygamy is allowed?
Its more like a warning. If one of these wives feels left behind she has the right to divorce as per the next verse.
Quote from: Amra94 on April 21, 2023, 11:09:54 PMI have also heard traditional Muslims say that because 4:3 says "marry two, three or four but if you fear you won't be just then marry only one", it shows polygamy is recommended because it first says marry multiple women only one if fear won't be just.
No, they intentionally misinterpreted the verse. Its been talked about before. The verse is about pairs of women. Also starting from 4:1 shows this is an administrative instruction. I mean its for the entire community and not for each man's private life.