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Reminds me of Sweden. They have clubs for that.

There is still I don't get something. Studies seem to consistently show 80% to 70% women fake orgasm. So what are they exactly getting by going with the flow of these men?

Based on what I read from articles to online forums, it is the combination of feeding men's ego, to get over sex, and prioritizing men's pleasure before theirs. It honestly reminds me of the hadith that mentions angels cursing women for refusing sex from their husbands since it seems women here also view sex as something to 'give' to their instead boyfriend or casual partner, rather than to gain from. I have heard of the saying 'Women fake orgasm for relationships, men fake the whole relationship for orgasm'...
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  Well it's kind of complicated whenever Muslim identity is refereed. 'Muslim' is not a race but a follower of Islam regardless of background but this identity is racialized because of the connotations with the ethnic groups, most commonly Middle Easterns and South Asians. Even if group of Muslims who are neither of those two, they would be strongly tied to the religious identity. Just like Osman says, race is a social concept and can be applied to a group with similar characteristics.

[04. Gender Interaction:]

04. Gender Interaction:

If like me you grew up in a religious traditional Muslim household, you must have been taught at one point or the other that shaking hands, chatting(online/offline) with or even befriending the opposite gender is forbidden and male-female interaction by puberty should minimal to zero if possible. Whether in the sermons from mosques or lectures by Muslim committees like Muslim Student's Societies, such gender interactions are regarded vices that ultimately pave way for adultery and fornication, thus justifying gender segregation. Most traditional Muslims, particularly teens and young adults seldom adhere to these teachings, though with guilt and denial. I was no exception in my days as a traditional Muslim, I had girls offer me handshake and I could not oblige, I shook their hands feeling slightly guilty for violating, yet I couldn't fathom how a simple handshake would predispose me to a path of sexual decadence.

Today, I even initiate handshake with these women, sit side by side with them, some of them are my friends and I have no reservation chatting with them. Relative to my days as a traditional Muslim, isn't this a privilege?

I think that strict gender segregation practices sexualizes the minds besides guilt because it's taught that any innocent talks or gestures to the opposite gender leads to sex. Viewing opposite genders talking to each other or shaking hands as 'sexual' acts harms the mindsets among Muslims. The opposite gender especially women are treated as sex objects or 'forbidden fruits'. Besides that, I don't think that rule works for homosexual Muslims. 

[Muslim Youth Need Sex Education]

We welcome guest writer and researcher Sobia Ali Faisal, who recently earned her doctoral degree from the University of Windsor. Her research is compelling and was turned into an info graphic. Below, she succinctly explains what her research findings were and why it is so important for our communities to begin making a commitment to sex education for Muslim youth. We congratulate Sobia for such compelling research and look forward to more of her work in this field.

Muslim Youth Need Sex Education

Yes they do. Why? Because Muslim youth are having sex. I surveyed 403 Muslims in Canada and the US between the ages of 17 and 35. More than half (221) reported they had engaged in sex. I did not ask for any particular time frame. I was simply asking if they had ever had sex. Of those 221, two-thirds (148) said they had done so before marriage. Before anyone thinks that most of those 148 people were men, I found these proportions were the same for men and women ? two-thirds of the women and two-thirds of the men had sex before marriage.

Even when looking at those who had not engaged in sex before marriage, half of those Muslims reported that they had considered doing so.

It?s clear that sex is relevant to Muslim youth. Previous research on the sexual education of Muslim youth (done mostly in New Zealand or the UK) has found Muslim parents DO want their children to have sexual education, but not until they are getting married. Knowing that Muslims are having sex before marriage means that having them wait until they are getting married to provide them with this education is too late and, not to mention, dangerous. They clearly need to know about issues of contraception, pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections, consent, violence in relationships, and healthy sexual decision making long before that time.

The Greatest Source of Sex Ed is the Media and Parents are the Least Likely Source

I asked my participants to rate, on a scale from 0 ? 4, how much sexual education they received from the media, their friends, and their parents. Media received the highest rating and was statistically significantly higher than the rating given to parents as a source of education.

This isn?t unique to Muslims, but it highlights the problem that plagues all young people ? parents aren?t talking about issues of sex and sexual health so the school systems need to provide this education. My research simply points out that Muslim youth are no different than their non-Muslim counterparts in this regard.


Lack of Sexual Knowledge -> Fear of Negative Sexual Self-Judgement -> Unhealthy Relationships

The main focus of my dissertation was sexual guilt and sexual anxiety of young Muslim adults. Previous research has found belief in sexual myths and lack of sexual knowledge to be related to higher levels of sexual guilt. Sexual guilt is a fear of negatively judging oneself for either engaging in or possibly engaging in sexual activity.

Previous research has also found a sexual guilt to be related to greater sexual dissatisfaction, higher frequency of sexual problems, and dissatisfaction with a current sexual relationship, which in turn has been found to be related to decreased relationship and marital satisfaction.

Lack of sexual knowledge can therefore result in negative feelings about sexual activity which will have an impact on sexual and romantic relationships.


Conclusion
My conclusion is the same as before ? young Muslims need sexual health education, just as their non-Muslim counterparts do.

Link: http://www.patheos.com/blogs/heartfelt/2015/11/what-does-the-research-say-that-muslim-youth-need-sex-education/

Infographic: http://wp.production.patheos.com/blogs/heartfelt/files/2015/10/infographic.jpg

Any thoughts or experiences based on this research?

It's sad that there's polarization towards Muslims and other minorities in Europe.

Sometimes I lurk around in reddit relating to religion and cultural experience.
I can tell you that in reddit, there are  many anti-Islam users who believe that the conservative traditional interpretation is the legit one and the alternatives are 'heritical'.
Their views put further notion that Islam is hateful, intolerant , sexist etc because of believing it as the solely 'authentic' which is no different from some Muslims following that interpretation. I would say that islam subreddit is even worse for not tolerating different debates and religious views. Internet is so weird whenever it comes to these stuff.

  It would be interesting to find out how the traditional madhabs approach menstruation related hadiths  and conclude it with the rule of no intercourse during women's period from the Quran.
Also the explicit R rated commentaries may indicate that the time when hadiths were recorded have more tolerance in expressing sexuality than most of today's Muslim societies.

The bald eagle is the symbol of America which pretty much explains the state of the country.

Hmmm I thought UK will appear in the top ten for having the most ISIS fighters.  Also, I wonder what is going on in countries like Turkmenistan and Uzbekistan that cause to have ISIS fighters.

It's no wonder why South Asia has fewer fighters when ISIS considers them to be inferior race.
http://atimes.com/2015/11/is-fighters-from-s-asia-face-racial-bias-are-tricked-into-suicide-missions-report/

I got banned from Ummah forum, a sunni forum. The usual process is name calling, profanity, death threats and eventually a complete IP ban. You cannot argue with them. They have no sense. Sunnis are thicker than Shiites. They're brainwashed from childhood to believe that their "ummah" is the path to paradise and that they're 100% on the straight path. There is no room for critical thinking in Sunnism. You are a kafir and will burn in hell forever if you ask too many questions. It's fear based control.

Have you ever tried islam section in Reddit?