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Nikah Misyar
Emil:
--- Quote from: Aryan Warrior on October 23, 2011, 09:21:25 AM ---I never mentioned temporary. Rather I want I am in love with this girl, but we are both still quite young to be in a finalized complete marriage. So I wanna know about this as I would like it to work out to a complete marriage eventually.
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Salaam Aryan Warrior
First of all, some of the verses you posted has nothing to do with marriage, it has to do with divorce. I find it a little strange that a person needs to prove he can divorce before he gets married.....
Second, there is no such thing as Nika Misyar. This is an invention, probably for the reasons Whereisthetruth is stating.
Aryan Warrior:
--- Quote from: Emil on October 24, 2011, 01:17:01 AM ---Salaam Aryan Warrior
First of all, some of the verses you posted has nothing to do with marriage, it has to do with divorce. I find it a little strange that a person needs to prove he can divorce before he gets married.....
Second, there is no such thing as Nika Misyar. This is an invention, probably for the reasons Whereisthetruth is stating.
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Sigh... I did not mention NIKAH MUTAH! :brickwall: Where in all of Nikah Misyar does it say temporary? it doesn't and that isn't what i'm trying to do!
alright then let's go by more simpler terms. The reason I even stated Nikah Misyar was just to state that I want to marry but for us to continue living with our parents until one day we gradually can move out and live together. Thus I wanna know if that can work? The whole financial thing seems to be fine amongst most i've seen as long as both parties agree upon it. So is it okay then?
Emil:
--- Quote from: Aryan Warrior on October 24, 2011, 08:00:23 AM ---Sigh... I did not mention NIKAH MUTAH! :brickwall: Where in all of Nikah Misyar does it say temporary? it doesn't and that isn't what i'm trying to do!
alright then let's go by more simpler terms. The reason I even stated Nikah Misyar was just to state that I want to marry but for us to continue living with our parents until one day we gradually can move out and live together. Thus I wanna know if that can work? The whole financial thing seems to be fine amongst most i've seen as long as both parties agree upon it. So is it okay then?
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Oops, sorry. Confused the two. But still, Nikah Misyar is also an invention. Nikah is Nikah, there is no Nikah with exemptions, either you are in or out.
You should ask yourself:
Do I love her? [2:221, 2:235, 30:21, 33:52]
Am I comfortably with her faith? [2:221, 60:10]
Am I comfortable with her "terms"? [4:4, 4:24]
Am I willing to spend the rest of my life with her? [4:21, 2:232, 2:237, 24:33]
If needed, am I willing to drop out of school and get a job so I can support my family? [2:228, 2:233, 4:34, 65:6]
Am I of the legal age? [4:6, 24:31, 24:58-59]
If your answer are all yesses, then all you need is hopefully the blessing of your families. Then, IMO there is no need for Nikah this or Nikah that. Just get married, and then if you decide to live separetely or not, that is your choice between husband and wife.
Aryan Warrior:
--- Quote from: Emil on October 24, 2011, 08:42:04 AM ---Oops, sorry. Confused the two. But still, Nikah Misyar is also an invention. Nikah is Nikah, there is no Nikah with exemptions, either you are in or out.
You should ask yourself:
Do I love her? [2:221, 2:235, 30:21, 33:52]
Am I comfortably with her faith? [2:221, 60:10]
Am I comfortable with her "terms"? [4:4, 4:24]
Am I willing to spend the rest of my life with her? [4:21, 2:232, 2:237, 24:33]
If needed, am I willing to drop out of school and get a job so I can support my family? [2:228, 2:233, 4:34, 65:6]
Am I of the legal age? [4:6, 24:31, 24:58-59]
If your answer are all yesses, then all you need is hopefully the blessing of your families. Then, IMO there is no need for Nikah this or Nikah that. Just get married, and then if you decide to live separetely or not, that is your choice between husband and wife.
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I assume that's if we were to have children, then yes of course.
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Remember the only reason these different terms exist is to distinguish variations cause regular Nikah normally has you taking care of your spouse (therefore they move out of their parents) which is why I mentioned the variation that states that as long as the person you plan to marry is fine living seperately and financed by their parents, it is okay :D
Emil:
Ok? thats good! Congrats to you my brother, I am sure your bride-to-be is a wonderful person.
With regards to the different types of Nikah, I just want to highlight for you that the reason for the creation of this is more based on culture rather than the Divine words of Allah. As far as I can see, the Quran only stipulates one kind of Nikah.
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