I know it sounds like I'm knocking marriage, but I'm not. It's just not that end all and be all, or perfect solution for lonliness that everyone single person imagines it to be, even if for the most part it does solve the lonliness issue. Because I've been there too, a young bachelor longing for marriage "knowing" that when I do get married everything will work out just fine, that I will tolerate and be understanding of her in everyway and she will do likewise. I had no idea until I got married that it is not like that. Well, maybe it's like that for some couples that I've never met, but for most it is not like that and it is very hard for men and women in close and constant quarters to tolerate each other all of the time. It's a constant up and down with no direct or logical way to reach resolutions to problems. But i can't speak for everyone. However, the Quran says that women and children are a test for men. I couldn't sum it up better. And although there is no Quranic verse that states the opposite (which is very telling to me), we know from real life that depending on the character of the men in our families, men can be a real test for women too.