Looking for soulmate)

[justamuslim]

I have thought about looking around where I live and maybe Match.com but the prospect of trying to find someone who has the same moral values and trustworthiness and loyalty to God among American culture is a daunting prospect. God is in control of all things and there was a time when I was just like those around me so anything can happen. I pray for patience a lot, and to just be content with being alone until God wills otherwise.

Next week I am actually going to a "speed dating" thing with a friend of mine just for fun.  You get 8, 8 minute "dates" with people so it should be rather funny. I wonder how fast I will scare them away by simply mentioning the word "God".    I told my friend I am treating it as little more than conversation calisthenics. I was married for a little more than 18 years and have never been a single muslim man before so it feels a little odd TBH. I havn't been on a "date" with someone other than my ex-wife in like 21 years! Things have changed a lot since then. (I got divorced 9 months ago)

True, the prospects are slim but if I don't try at all then the chances are zero.  I have indeed met some really nice guys - very spiritual, God fearing, having moral values but unfortunately worship Jesus.  I just can't bring myself to put out that candle of hope that keeps flickering that someday the right person will walk into my life at the right time.  Only God knows the future. 

Did speed dating once.  You see, the local mosques have done a great job of ensuring separation of men and women that some years ago, group of people from the community put together this speed dating event seeing a need for single people to meet.  Felt more like a meet market.  Unfortunately, average guy hasn't evolved much from the neanderthal state of thinking...."oooh, she's pretty and i wanna bang her'.   

[Mr.Q]

True, the prospects are slim but if I don't try at all then the chances are zero.  I have indeed met some really nice guys - very spiritual, God fearing, having moral values but unfortunately worship Jesus.  I just can't bring myself to put out that candle of hope that keeps flickering that someday the right person will walk into my life at the right time.  Only God knows the future. 

Did speed dating once.  You see, the local mosques have done a great job of ensuring separation of men and women that some years ago, group of people from the community put together this speed dating event seeing a need for single people to meet.  Felt more like a meet market.  Unfortunately, average guy hasn't evolved much from the neanderthal state of thinking...."oooh, she's pretty and i wanna bang her'.

I hear you sister! Especially the neanderthal part! LoL I only have a few non-muslim male friends because to be honest, they disgust me and I am a male! I work in an almost entirely male work place and I just shake my head at the things they say and what they think is important or morally ok.    If, God willing, I do meet someone who is non-muslim and gives me a chance, she is probably going to shocked and not know what to make of me because I am sooooooo unlike your typical american male. And I am thankful to God for that. 

[7HUSSEIN]

sorry sister but im from london and russia is quite far from here

[justamuslim]

If, God willing, I do meet someone who is non-muslim and gives me a chance, she is probably going to shocked and not know what to make of me because I am sooooooo unlike your typical american male. And I am thankful to God for that. 

she'll probably think if you are gay!   what's wrong with our society?   

so, guys don't have it any easier huh?   

[Mr.Q]

she'll probably think if you are gay!   what's wrong with our society?   

so, guys don't have it any easier huh?

LoL  No we don't. American women can be just as bad and I often wonder if there are any upright, moral, righteous ones out there who are not married and I would be attracted to and who wouldn't be scared off by the simple mention of God or even worse, the term "muslim".    It's almost as if they talk like they want a good, moral man but the minute they actually meet one, who isn't faking it, they run for the hills! It's frustrating but I trust in God and when they run I will thank Him for it.  Probably better off that way.

I stay hopeful though, God willing somewhere, someday, unexpectedly, He will have me meet someone that is right for me and that I am right for her.

[es]

I think there might be some potential for matchmaking here!      

[Mr.Q]

I think there might be some potential for matchmaking here!      

Giving up on me already??

[justamuslim]

It's almost as if they talk like they want a good, moral man but the minute they actually meet one, who isn't faking it, they run for the hills! It's frustrating but I trust in God and when they run I will thank Him for it.  Probably better off that way.

Better than guys lying about their religious beliefs, moral values, marital status, residency status, age, height, profession, etc.   No kidding!   What are they thinking or not thinking??      Geesh, what a waste of time and energy!   Oh I sure can write a book!   

[Free_Spirited]

Nice topic... Katya, hope you find your true soulmate!

Well, finding your soulmate is Allah's great gift.
I've witnessed such marriages by soul mates and I can say they are the luckiest people on earth!
It is the best for building very strong marriage besides submitting yourself to certain circumstances...

In progressive societies, we witness that mostly men have benefited from feminism.
Nowadays, they have more choices before marriage and besides their wives to try many different women.

Women devote their youth to careers, and when their biological clocks are about to finish ticking, they desperately try to find their men for their offsprings  . But it is not easy among the sea of men who want to try one woman and move on to next in search of pleasure and excitement .
It is sad that people are also becoming disposable, not just things...
"Fast food" mentality is obvious even when it comes to relationships...