Looking for soulmate)

[Mr.Q]

Mr. Q, I think the pickings are slim everywhere.  I have lived in university town and now living in a small rural town in the northeast state - doesn't matter!  Have you tried internet matrimonial sites? Pickings may be depressingly slim but I am sure there is a soul out there who feels the same.   Never know as all that we are in need of is that one person.

Yes I have actually joined Muslima.com. It's a highly rated Muslim matrimonial site and it's actually very good and nicely done. I have received 100's of "interests" so far but nothing I am really interested in. I must get an average of 10 interests a day from Morocco alone! I don't know what it is about women there but they sure like me. LoL! I must be a rare thing being a Caucasian American Muslim. 

I would not even probably think about foreigners TBH. I am sure most are looking more at the green card and ticket to the USA more than anything else but God knows for sure.

I have found a few that I was interested in but nothing has come of them so far but I am patient and God willing somewhere, somehow I will meet the person for me.

[Zulf]

I wish you all the very best of luck and blessings from Allah!
I have come to learn for myself that Allah can indeed arrange the most amazing things beyond our wildest dreams. I'm also sure there are matching people out there for each and every one who has not yet found anyone.

I found it extremely beneficial to ask Allah for a match that will be very good and suitable for oneself. Ask for mutual love, mutual understanding and happiness. Just keep asking Allah. I also believe one should not go too much into useless details, like appearance, nationality and such things that have no real affect on the personality. Ask Allah to send you a wonderful soul that match you very well.

Peace and Love

[es]

Mr. Q, I think the pickings are slim everywhere.  I have lived in university town and now living in a small rural town in the northeast state - doesn't matter!  Have you tried internet matrimonial sites? Pickings may be depressingly slim but I am sure there is a soul out there who feels the same.   Never know as all that we are in need of is that one person.   

Salaam,

Pickings may be "slim", but then there are diamonds like my sister Katya and I waiting for our "knights in shining armour" (metaphorically, of course!).

[Student of Allah]

Salaam,

Pickings may be "slim", but then there are diamonds like my sister Katya and I waiting for our "knights in shining armour" (metaphorically, of course!).

Shalom Aleikhem,

I am sorry...but I couldnt stop myself ...

Peace
--------- Student of Allah

[Mr.Q]

Thats not right!

I actually believe in chivalry and honor, character and virtue.     A Knight just without the armor, smelly horse and better hygiene. And without a Castle, kingdom or Lordship but hey, you can't have everything! 

[es]

Shalom Aleikhem,

I am sorry...but I couldnt stop myself ...

Peace
--------- Student of Allah

Yes, metaphorically speaking!

Student of Allah, shalom,

Ahtah ghi bori aval zeh lo yah-feh leats khok ahl ah nahshim.

Thats not right!

I actually believe in chivalry and honor, character and virtue.     A Knight just without the armor, smelly horse and better hygiene. And without a Castle, kingdom or Lordship but hey, you can't have everything! 

Mr. Q, I have to agree with you. You can be my knight in shining armour any day of the week! (Now, it seems I might be propositioning you!) 

[justamuslim]

Yes I have actually joined Muslima.com. It's a highly rated Muslim matrimonial site and it's actually very good and nicely done. I have received 100's of "interests" so far but nothing I am really interested in. I must get an average of 10 interests a day from Morocco alone! I don't know what it is about women there but they sure like me. LoL! I must be a rare thing being a Caucasian American Muslim. 

I would not even probably think about foreigners TBH. I am sure most are looking more at the green card and ticket to the USA more than anything else but God knows for sure.

I have found a few that I was interested in but nothing has come of them so far but I am patient and God willing somewhere, somehow I will meet the person for me.

Same here!  Many on these muslim matrimonial sites are muslims by name and birth only.   You have the 'sex and the city' type of muslims.  Then you have the other extreme type who think it is haram to ride in the car or to meet without a 'wali'.   My gosh, finding a person who just believes in God and having moral values shouldn't seem so hard but it is.  Even if you do, there's the compatibility issue.    Try Match.com.  What have you to lose?  Per chance, you may meet a 'spritiual but not religious' or a jew or a 'christian' who is not sure about Jesus, or a hadith follower who is not sure about  hadiths - just a decent good person with moral values who might be a good fit.   

As depressing as it seems at times, it is faith and hope that keeps me searching as you may never know who may drop in but need to keep my heart open, doing my part.

[justamuslim]

I found it extremely beneficial to ask Allah for a match that will be very good and suitable for oneself. Ask for mutual love, mutual understanding and happiness. Just keep asking Allah. I also believe one should not go too much into useless details, like appearance, nationality and such things that have no real affect on the personality. Ask Allah to send you a wonderful soul that match you very well.

Peace and Love

Zulf, I agree.  That's what I did but bear in mind that satan also listens to your prayers and there are those with evil tendency.   Having learned from my painful past experiences, nationality (not ethnic background) is absolutely a criteria.   Although there are systems in place, there are those who know how to manipulate and abuse the system to obtain green card.   

[Mr.Q]

Mr. Q, I have to agree with you. You can be my knight in shining armour any day of the week! (Now, it seems I might be propositioning you!) 

Well, well then...... 

You have my email. What is it, exactly, that you are proposing??

 

[Mr.Q]

Same here!  Many on these muslim matrimonial sites are muslims by name and birth only.   You have the 'sex and the city' type of muslims.  Then you have the other extreme type who think it is haram to ride in the car or to meet without a 'wali'.   My gosh, finding a person who just believes in God and having moral values shouldn't seem so hard but it is.  Even if you do, there's the compatibility issue.    Try Match.com.  What have you to lose?  Per chance, you may meet a 'spritiual but not religious' or a jew or a 'christian' who is not sure about Jesus, or a hadith follower who is not sure about  hadiths - just a decent good person with moral values who might be a good fit.   

As depressing as it seems at times, it is faith and hope that keeps me searching as you may never know who may drop in but need to keep my heart open, doing my part.

Yes I am aware of the fact that there are many different types of "muslims" out there, with different values and motivations but it is like you say, we have to go out and seek what we are looking for somewhere and God willing He will guide us to it.

I have thought about looking around where I live and maybe Match.com but the prospect of trying to find someone who has the same moral values and trustworthiness and loyalty to God among American culture is a daunting prospect. God is in control of all things and there was a time when I was just like those around me so anything can happen. I pray for patience a lot, and to just be content with being alone until God wills otherwise.

Next week I am actually going to a "speed dating" thing with a friend of mine just for fun.  You get 8, 8 minute "dates" with people so it should be rather funny. I wonder how fast I will scare them away by simply mentioning the word "God".    I told my friend I am treating it as little more than conversation calisthenics. I was married for a little more than 18 years and have never been a single muslim man before so it feels a little odd TBH. I havn't been on a "date" with someone other than my ex-wife in like 21 years! Things have changed a lot since then. (I got divorced 9 months ago)