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 Title: Friendship and love between a man and a woman
 
 Question:
 
 I know keeping girlfriend will destroy the family
 and so on but what if we were just friends secretly
 were no one knew. this way we will we will stay
 togethr until marraige and we can garentee we wont
 perform any zinna. are there any cases in the old
 times of love . Answer:
 Praise be to Allaah.  
 
 
 Firstly:
 
 Taking a girlfriend does not only destroy the
 family, it destroys society, and those who do this
 are threatened with the punishment and wrath of
 Allaah. Love is a sickness that destroys the heart
 and leads to evil and immorality. The Shaytaan will
 keep tempting them and pushing them until they
 commit immoral actions and thus each gets what he or
 she wants from the other.
 
 There are many forbidden matters associated with
 this, such as transgressing against the honour of
 others, betraying trust, being alone with a member
 of the opposite sex, touching, kissing, speaking
 immoral words, then the greater evil which occurs at
 the end, which is the sin of zina.
 
 The fact that the questioner says ?no one knows
 about us? is strange. How can he forget about his
 Lord Who knows what is secret and what is yet more
 hidden, and who knows the fraud of the eyes and all
 that the hearts conceal. (cf. Ghaafir 40:19).
 
 Our advice to you, as you are still young, is to
 discipline yourself to obey Allaah and always
 remember that He is watching; fear Allaah concerning
 people?s honour; strive for the Day when you will
 meet your Lord with your deeds; remember the scandal
 that may happen in this world and the Hereafter.
 Remember that you have sisters and will have a wife
 and daughters, so would you like for one of them
 what you are doing with the daughters of the
 Muslims? The answer is that you would certainly not
 like it, and other people do not like it either.
 Remember that you may see the results of your sin in
 some of your family members as a punishment to you
 from your Lord.
 
 You have to look for righteous friends, and you have
 to keep yourself busy doing that which Allaah loves
 and is pleased with. Pay attention to the best and
 most sublime things and leave alone the worst and
 most vile things. Make the most of your youth in
 obeying and worshipping Allaah, seeking knowledge
 and calling others to Allaah. Remember that there
 were those of your age and younger who were men who
 had memorized the Qur?aan, who sought knowledge,
 whom the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be
 upon him) sent to call others to Allaah and to enter
 the religion of Islam.
 
 We advise you to get married to a righteous,
 religiously-committed woman who will help you adhere
 to your religion and encourage you to adhere to the
 laws of Allaah, who will look after your children
 and bring them up with good morals and religious
 commitment. Give up this woman who agrees to go out
 with a man who is a stranger to her (a non-mahram)
 and meet him and talk to him; if she agrees to do
 immoral actions now then what is going to prevent
 her from continuing to do so in the  future?
 
 Remember that you are angering your Lord with such
 sins as being alone with her, meeting her and
 talking to her, and anything more than that is even
 more serious.
 
 You should realize that zina does not only involve
 the private parts, rather the eyes may commit zina,
 the ears may commit zina, the hand may commit zina
 and the foot may commit zina, as was proven from the
 Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).
 All of that leads to the zina of the private parts.
 So do not let the Shaytaan deceive you, for he is an
 enemy to you who wishes you evil and tells you to
 commit immoral actions.
 
 Shaykh Muhammad al-Saalih al-?Uthaymeen said:
 
 Contact between lovers in improper and unlawful ways
 is a calamity and a real disaster. It is not
 permissible for the man to contact the woman in this
 case, or for the woman to contact the man. If he
 says that he wants to marry her, then he must tell
 her wali (guardian) that he wants to marry her, or
 she should tell her wali that she wants to marry
 him, as ?Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) did
 when he offered his daughter Hafsah in marriage to
 Abu Bakr and ?Umar (may Allaah be pleased with
 them).
 
 But if the woman contacts the man directly, this is
 the source of fitnah (temptation).
 
 As?ilat al-Baab il-Maftooh (Question no. 868).
 
 Secondly:
 
 With regard to your question about such forbidden
 relationships in the ancient love stories, the fact
 that such stories existed among those who came
 before us cannot be taken as proof with regard to
 shar?i rulings, because the rulings of sharee?ah
 having to do with what is forbidden and what is
 allowed are to be taken from the shar?i evidence of
 the Qur?aan and Sunnah, and the commands and
 prohibitions contained therein.
 
 Some of those mentioned in these stories came before
 Islam, such as ?Antarah and others, and such stories
 are to be found in other cultures as is well known.
 But we cannot take shar?i rulings from this because
 Islam came to bring people forth from being
 controlled by their desires to complete submission
 to Allaah the Lord of the Worlds.
 
 We ask Allaah to guide us and you and to give us
 strength.
 
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Peace all,
I just found this in an old email a sunni guy had sent me. It nearly made my hair go completely white.  I was incensed.
This is a prime example of cultural influence upon Islam and a prime example of scholars trying to rule the world with their opinions and of many Muslims blindly following scholars' every word. To quote the scholar below: "Love is a sickness that destroys the heart and leads to evil and immorality."  Excuse me? Love? Ah that explains the hatred.....
And then the solution is always: "Get married!"  Like that is the be all and end all.
And oh, the horror of a woman talking to a man!  :shock:
Wali? Schmali ! Sunnah? Schmunnah!
Allah is my Wali. Period.
Needless to say I replied to the sunni guy asking him where in the Quran we could find any rulings on men and women keeping separate from each other.  Please bear in mind I would never promote fornication or adultery. But this is going to extremes in my opinion.  He never replied to me but instead sent my email reply to another sister, asking her to reply to my email.  Go figure.    :cry:

Jibril:
Salaam

Yes the DESERT culture had been the most paganistic culture to exist,
 i mean since Egypt till now in the arab history even most will admit that they where addicted to all these supersticions and pagan Gods and control of there children.

The sadest is the killling of children, baby girls.

What i see is they mixed there supersticioun with there faith up too much so can they continue the practices that are not anywhere in the Qu'ran!!

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[9.97] The dwellers of the desert are very hard in unbelief and hypocrisy, and more disposed not to know the limits of what Allah has revealed to His Apostle; and Allah is Knowing, Wise.

[49.14] The dwellers of the desert say: We believe. Say: You do not believe but say, We submit; and faith has not yet entered into your hearts; and if you obey Allah and His Apostle, He will not diminish aught of your deeds; surely Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.

[8.53] This is because Allah has never changed a favor which He has conferred upon a people until they change their own condition; and because Allah is Hearing, Knowing;

[18.50] And when We said to the angels: Make obeisance to Adam; they made obeisance but Iblis (did it not). He was of the jinn, so he transgressed the commandment of his Lord. What! would you then take him and his offspring for friends rather than Me, and they are your enemies? Evil is (this) change for the unjust.

[2.174] Surely those who conceal any part of the Book that Allah has revealed and take for it a small price, they eat nothing but fire into their bellies, and Allah will not speak to them on the day of resurrection, nor will He purify them, and they shall have a painful chastisement.



[2.235] And there is no blame on you respecting that which you speak indirectly in the asking of (such) women in marriage or keep (the proposal) concealed within your minds; Allah knows that you will mention them, but do not give them a promise in secret unless you speak in a lawful manner, and do not confirm the marriage tie until the writing is fulfilled, and know that Allah knows what is in your minds, therefore beware of Him, and know that Allah is Forgiving, Forbearing.

[3.78] Most surely there is a party amongst those who distort the Book with their tongue that you may consider it to be (a part) of the Book, and they say, It is from Allah, while it is not from Allah, and they tell a lie against Allah whilst they know.

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