61
Introduce Yourself / Re: Peace to all, from the Southern US
« on: April 07, 2010, 02:38:30 PM »
Welcome 
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.
Did you miss your activation email? May 21, 2013, 03:03:06 PM
Did you miss your activation email? May 21, 2013, 03:03:06 PM
Show Posts
This section allows you to view all posts made by this member. Note that you can only see posts made in areas you currently have access to.
62
Off-Topic / Re: Music?
« on: April 07, 2010, 02:34:29 PM »
I kind of like a bit of everything......my hubby is a metal fan but some of the stuff he listens to I cant understand as they shout to loud 
Evanesence, dixie chicks, emilie autumn, the cranberries (i feel old now) and due to my mother playing it constantly im a bit partial to old country n western music yee haaa I do like some of hubbys stuff as long as its not to heavy.....
Evanesence, dixie chicks, emilie autumn, the cranberries (i feel old now) and due to my mother playing it constantly im a bit partial to old country n western music yee haaa I do like some of hubbys stuff as long as its not to heavy.....
64
General Issues / Questions / Re: Taking off the Hijab
« on: April 07, 2010, 08:42:10 AM »
Satan paints red paint on the heads of women without a headscarf to be his wife on the day of judgement.
im shocked that your friend sent you this!......youre right you dont need the hassle no one does so just take it in your stride at your own pace.......satans wife pah
I wouldnt pay any attention to sayings such as this:)
I think your brave to consider doing anything which will be seen as departing from the norm when living in such a communityand i believe god will show you the right thing to do
65
General Issues / Questions / Re: Taking off the Hijab
« on: April 07, 2010, 07:46:04 AM »
Hi HNF,
I thought id share my experience with you:)
When i converted i began wearing a headscarf........I enjoyed the security I felt it gave me. I stopped wearing the scarf however as I learned more and bacame more involved with Islam .....it seems that when i converted I assumed it was obligatory but as i read the Quran for myself I decided i didnt need to (sorry for swaying into the obligatory or not issue, I just thought id explain why I stopped)
anyhow..my experience has been that those who are my friends havent really commented ...my husband again is not bothered either way (he isnt a muslim) .....so my advice is just do what feels best for you and what you feel is in line with what you believe not what others try to force on you.
I thought id share my experience with you:)
When i converted i began wearing a headscarf........I enjoyed the security I felt it gave me. I stopped wearing the scarf however as I learned more and bacame more involved with Islam .....it seems that when i converted I assumed it was obligatory but as i read the Quran for myself I decided i didnt need to (sorry for swaying into the obligatory or not issue, I just thought id explain why I stopped)
anyhow..my experience has been that those who are my friends havent really commented ...my husband again is not bothered either way (he isnt a muslim) .....so my advice is just do what feels best for you and what you feel is in line with what you believe not what others try to force on you.
66
Europe / Re: Hello to my UK brothers and sisters!
« on: April 05, 2010, 05:56:29 AM »
Hi:)
Im in sunny Manchester........I couldnt connect to the link so cant see if there are any others in Manchester.
Im in sunny Manchester........I couldnt connect to the link so cant see if there are any others in Manchester.
67
Projects / Conferences / Events / Re: Undercover For the Sake of Monotheism
« on: March 31, 2010, 04:48:37 AM »
I think you are brave. Having attended a Sunni mosque where the women were taught hadith after hadith to ensure rules were complied with for reward or risk prayers going unheard or hell if you didnt wash the right number of times it would have come as a welcome break to hear a women actually put the quran first.......I may have continued attedning the mosque if just one person had shown an alternative view and that it was ok to have an alternative view.
Ok so the children trust you....I dont see how you teaching them in english is teaching them anything "nasty" .........better the children trust one who has good intentions and wants them to have an open mind rather than trusting someone whos intention is to follow rule after rule to gain reward after reward and under no circumstances accept another type/way of muslim faith, condeming all that did as non muslims.
Carry one with your good work......like another poster said, you are a muslim so your not undercover so dont see it like that.....unless the Imam specified that you must only teach that which has been approved by him or the sunni sect in gen then you are not doing anything untoward....its the intention of your heart that counts.
Imaani.
Ok so the children trust you....I dont see how you teaching them in english is teaching them anything "nasty" .........better the children trust one who has good intentions and wants them to have an open mind rather than trusting someone whos intention is to follow rule after rule to gain reward after reward and under no circumstances accept another type/way of muslim faith, condeming all that did as non muslims.
Carry one with your good work......like another poster said, you are a muslim so your not undercover so dont see it like that.....unless the Imam specified that you must only teach that which has been approved by him or the sunni sect in gen then you are not doing anything untoward....its the intention of your heart that counts.
Imaani.
68
General Issues / Questions / Re: modesty in quran
« on: December 06, 2009, 05:22:14 AM »
I am in the UK ......I wonder if this is typical of most unis? I was talking to a friend of mine yesterday who was saying she had felt humiliated by the comments of a certain girl who wears headscarf and jilbab (always in black as she does not agree with colourful displays) I felt sad for her and had only been speaking to another girl in the same year who has also had issues with the girl making nasty comments. Listening to both girls stories it occured to me that the girl who is giving the other two hassle clearly feels superior.
I wonder if this girl realises that wearing hijab is her choice and if she even realises that she has adopted this air of superiority and tendency to be intimidating to others which is upsetting her sisters?
I wonder if this girl realises that wearing hijab is her choice and if she even realises that she has adopted this air of superiority and tendency to be intimidating to others which is upsetting her sisters?
69
General Issues / Questions / Re: more damage is done than good
« on: December 06, 2009, 05:07:20 AM »
I dont agree that more damage than good is done than good in allowing people their own interpretations. Its in trying to create a docterine that you have to subscribe to (or your do not belong to the subscribing group) that you create serious divide.
Setting in stone a certain interpretation of anything doesnt allow you to interprate for yourself or evidence for yourself the message of the Quran and that is what is at the heart of it. I decided to join this group because I know that no matter how many disagree or agree with how/what I interprate in a verse or chapter I will not be labelled as a disbeliever as is happens with sects that have a take it or leave it interpretation of Quran that must be followed by all with sometimes devastating consequences such as war death persecution and seperation between those who are supposed to be following the best of instruction and heading in the direction of a straight path.
peace.
Setting in stone a certain interpretation of anything doesnt allow you to interprate for yourself or evidence for yourself the message of the Quran and that is what is at the heart of it. I decided to join this group because I know that no matter how many disagree or agree with how/what I interprate in a verse or chapter I will not be labelled as a disbeliever as is happens with sects that have a take it or leave it interpretation of Quran that must be followed by all with sometimes devastating consequences such as war death persecution and seperation between those who are supposed to be following the best of instruction and heading in the direction of a straight path.
peace.
70
Marriage & Divorce / Re: underage brides
« on: December 06, 2009, 04:38:04 AM »
I have two children a girl and a boy and as far as im concerned its about choice thats where age comes into it....now I may be wrong but I could not imagine any young girl or boy consenting willingly happily and with full knowledge of responsibility (without pressure be it forced or subdued) to a marriage to any man or women of any age before they reached 17/18.......what female child below 12 would agree to marrying an old man
puberty is not the only factor to be considered when making a marriage but is the only excuse used by these men/women/parents to make the horrific choice of allowing a marriage contract which will allow the child to be used sexually without repercussions and often with a monetary or some other benefit to the parents of the parties involved.
Yes there are diff practices in diff parts of the world (doesnt make it right) and yes some people do mature mentally before others but in the stories presented this isnt a factor...puberty and poverty is and it makes my blood boil.
My children will have a choice....all persons should have a choice. Peace.
puberty is not the only factor to be considered when making a marriage but is the only excuse used by these men/women/parents to make the horrific choice of allowing a marriage contract which will allow the child to be used sexually without repercussions and often with a monetary or some other benefit to the parents of the parties involved.
Yes there are diff practices in diff parts of the world (doesnt make it right) and yes some people do mature mentally before others but in the stories presented this isnt a factor...puberty and poverty is and it makes my blood boil.
My children will have a choice....all persons should have a choice. Peace.