« on: June 16, 2013, 03:33:45 AM »
Love is blind. I know people who are married to defective people. So what? And what makes you think that "normal" people are not unhappy unadapted and nobody will listen to them because to people like you they have to be happy as if by law. lame people unhappy, normal people happy. In which world do you live? On the other hand, you do not seem to be readin what we write. For each person his or her trials. It is not a right to be happy it is a challenge. And the degree of the challenge will be matched by the degree of happinnes attained. But it is ridiculous to think that anybody at all without challenges "will be happy". So you are condemning all "defective" people to unhappinness? And condemning all normal people to happinnes without a right to fail and by unhappy. There are many ways in this world to unhappiness defectivness is just one. People commit suicide and they may be what you call happy.
You have come in contact with something that has shocked you, but calm down. The person who causes that shock is she as shocked as you are? My experience is the the people who suffer something do get the character to endure that something. Some more some less. As I say, suicide is something that is commited by all people, is not the privilege of lame people, so that shwos something, or not?
It is not abnormal people who are your trouble, it is you who are not able to cope with it, and I guess you are right, you are asking in this forum so that in this exchange you get help to cope with it.
I feel compassion for you, because I can see you are really suffering, but calm down, you will get used to it if you continue seeing that person. Also, take care of yourself. Getting sick because somebody is sick is of no use neither to the first sick nor to the second. I know of somebody who doing solidarity work got a deep depression. And that is a real illness, a terrible illness. Take care of yourself, I am serious. If you cannot put up with it, step aside, otherwise you will cause yourself to be sick. You will have to strengthen yourself and seek professional help so that if you are going to be around defective people, you do not get psychologically destroyed in the process. You really worry me. Please, do not get sucked in destructive feelings and thoughts. Seek help or step aside till when you are mature a formed person capable of handling that kind of thing.
I do not know how old are you. My guess is young and I guess also idealistic. That is very good, both things are good. But administer yourself, do not get broke at the beginning of the race.
I am worried about you and pray that you do not give in to destructive and so painful thoughts.