Hello,
Replies to questions # 1 - 9 in blue. These are my opinions and do not reflect the views of free-minds. Also, I haven't read all the other posts so what I say could be a repeat.
Peace.
Hi.
The reason why I said 'especially
loving couples' is because I see absolutely nothing wrong with sex between a committed people BUT i'm not sure if I can either fault those who are mature enough to engage in casual sex? The idea of sleeping around doesn't sit comfortable with me but if there is consent among two people, im not sure if I can call this
wrong. Yes, by doing so, there is greater risk of STDs, unwanted pregnancies therefore resulting in potential single mothers but by consenting, these are risks that the two people take into consideration. And if they don't, well tough if something bad happens.
You say:
Marriage historically served a purpose, binding men and women to a contractual promise that if otherwise didn't exist, they could leave without a financial mess at their hands, and social stigma (motives for staying and working on the marriage - that's the reality). It is more pleasing to think that "a real loving couple" would not break up on a whim but they can and do, easily. Speaking as a female, I do not like the thought of a man leaving me after have relations with him. Some women can accomplish it, but in general, it is trickier for women to separate emotion from sex even those who have adapted to Western dating life. Marriage is a testament of commitment to the couple involved, the public, and to God. Maybe that stopped a while ago, but it ought to be that way.
Your'e right. But times change and people also change. You obviously wont like a man leaving you after having 'relations', but who's to say a marriage or some 'contract' won't prevent him from leaving you anyway? And is marriage really a testament to commitment? We often find marriages breaking up between people who've been married for years, or decades, while on the other hand, some couples live together forever without getting married or signing a 'contract', and I expect this to increase as less people get married due to people beginning to find it unimportant. Who's to say what the world will be like in 1000 years time, the concept of marriage may all but be forgotten. It wasn't that way before, due to a more conservative society, with people finding it necessary to conform to society and their family, and no doubt the will of the Abrahamic faiths shaping the majority of the World - and it still is this way in many areas; the country in which I have my roots for example.
It depends on what you teach your child. If you teach your child that God exists, and everyones destiny is heaven and hell depending on your actions, then you could class that as indoctrination. Neither of these things can be proven but a naive child would take it as fact if taught as such from an early age - children are efficient learners. Personally I think its not a good idea to teach young children about God, or religion in general but in the end the parents have control over their kids, and no one has the right to interfere unless there is physical abuse involved.
Usuary is often a bad thing but then again, society wouldn't be able to work properly without involving interest. If you plan on taking a loan, then your'e accepting the risks that come along with it, and if you find you cannot pay the debt, then you only have yourself to blame imo. However, not all are on agreement here. Some argue that context is required when looking at Quranic verses forbidding usury. Others say that if your financially stable then usury isn't a problem. This does need to be looked into more in depth. Besides, in the modern world, you can only buy a house without mortgage if you come from a wealthy family, or if you rise up from the ashes and become incredibly successful in life. The majority however, cannot.
On the instance of Pork, if you cook it properly then all bacteria and microscopic worms die and the meat is good to eat. This applies to most other meat, as most meat contains dangerous bacteria, especially red meat. You could probably capture a wild skunk from your backyard, kill it, skin it, and cook it with it being safe to eat in the end, though I highly recommend you do not try this.
If God did indeed send the Quran and Prophets, and performed magnificent miracles such as parting the sea/river, then we need to ask why God decides not to answer prayers, or at least most prayers. Because there are millions of unanswered prayers out there, and I can't remember if any single prayer of mine had been answered.
I find Judgement day hard to believe in simply because there no evidence to support it. Sure it sounds ideal, but things that sound ideal are often brought about by our own emotions rather than logic or evidence. The idea of God that always existed is ideal because we don't know what kick started the Universe. I guess we'll only find out for sure once we die, right now we can only speculate.