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I feel they (gays)have that freedom to do with their life as they want and God will do as he pleases with them, does not mean I don't like homosexuality, it destroyed my family. But to just hate a group of ppl without any mercy, is something I fear God will judge me on. You can hate the act, but you can't oppress another, they will do what they want anyway. I have not seen a punishment in Quran for gays being death. I also think Lot had to do with gang raping of men and the fact they were heterosexual choosing to cause corruption in the land. Homosexuality has existed before Lot so it was not something new, from what I have studied.
Thanks for sharing your story. Unfortunately, your story is not an isolated case. I know of similar stories.
It is not homosexuality per se that destroyed your family. What destroyed the family are the actions of people. The action of family members beating the gay out of your father who felt pressured to lie to himself and others. Did your mom know that your dad was gay before she married him? If she knew and yet married him then that is a mistake she made that resulted in pain. If she didn't
know, then she was lied to by your father and his family who knowingly allowed the marriage to your mother take place. The marriage was not based on honesty from the start. Your father's infidelity caused pain. If your father did not act on his homosexuality or at least had an open talk with your mom divorcing her first, would it have resulted in as much pain? also, the man he was having an affair with was acting on his selfish desires not thinking about how his actions could cause pain to your mom, to you and others.
The lies and deceit caused pain - not the homosexuality. It is not fair to exclusively blame your dad and his sexuality. Those who tried to beat the gay out of him and pressuring him to conform also need to take responsibility and accountability of the consequences of their actions that lead to so much pain to so many people. If your father's sexuality was accepted or he was not pressured to conform, would it have resulted in what it did?
Didn't your mom have a clue? Did she not find something was amiss? Usually there are warning signs or a sense that something is not right or doesn't feel right. Often women tend to ignore these feelings, voices, etc not acting on them. Did your mom confront her feelings if she did have them? I know couples who felt totally blindsided by infidelity but the red flags were there and usually denial or refusal to see are strong defense mechanisms.
Blaming others are also strong defense mechanisms. In cases of homosexuality, we need to stop this blame game and confront the real problem at hand. It is problem of nonacceptance for whatever the reasons - may it be religious or otherwise. The problem of intolerance often all done in the name of God.
it is one's own prejudices, selfishness, ego, arrogance and ignorance that result in pain.