Questions/Comments on the Quran / Re: How sex before Marriage is not haram (prohibited) according to the Quran« on: March 12, 2013, 11:43:13 AM »
All I can say is what's the purpose...you've been socially programmed by the current state of the society...If you love someone and want to be intimate then there is no reason why you shouldn't marry, if you don't love someone enough to get married than why be intimate?Why is it necessary for them to get married before they can have sex?
Ok let's go with the idea of sex can only happen after marriage.
Let's say a couple decide to not to have sex until after they are married. Unfortunately for the guy, the girl was just marrying him for sex and nothing more. She has sex with him and then demands a divorce breaking the guy's heart.
In reverse let's say another couple also decide not to have sex until after they are married. Unfortunately for the girl, the guy was just using her for sex. Again another heartbreak.
How are the above scenarios less damaging than the idea of having sex before marriage?
If you love someone and want to be intimate, there is no reason why you should restrain yourself from what is a clear blessing and provision for humanity, (if done correctly). Just as one needs to exercise caution with regards to choosing the right marriage partner, one also needs to exercise caution with regards to whom they choose to engage in sexual activity with. Some may not be ready for sex until after 1 day, perhaps 1 month or maybe a year or even 10 years. The point is that when they are ready, they shouldn't restrict themselves for the wrong reasons.
Based on the above, saying something like there isn't enough love between them because they are unwilling to get married therefore they should not have sex isn't a justified position in my opinion.
You probably don't have daughter or sister and you can't see things clearly...I don't. I'm guessing you do. How would it make a difference for you if your daughter or sister got married before they had sex? What's the difference in the eyes of a father or brother?